rumblytumbly's rush

[AlphaFrog]

I think I remember something about being able to list houses that cut us on our bid card so that we would be "maximizing potential" and not SIPing, but still not get bids to houses that we didn't want.

[AChiOhSnap]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I think I remember something about being able to list houses that cut us on our bid card so that we would be "maximizing potential" and not SIPing, but still not get bids to houses that we didn't want.

That would be amazing if all schools allowed that, but I suppose it still is "getting around the system" in a way -- which is exactly what the panhels are trying to avoid when they discourage SIPing.

[SoCalGirl]

I think when Sally PNM gets pref invites to ABC and XYZ and she knows there's no way that she wants XYZ and has been ranking them last the entire time she should say something. She can politely and discreetly tell her rusher that she does not see herself in their chapter and would prefer to not receive a bid from them. If her rusher has any sense she'll tell an advisor who will remove Sally from the bid list altogether. Sally PNM can still rank them second, not suiciding, but there would be a snow balls chance of her getting an XYZ bid.

Originally Posted by SoCalGirl

I think when Sally PNM gets pref invites to ABC and XYZ and she knows there's no way that she wants XYZ and has been ranking them last the entire time she should say something. She can politely and discreetly tell her rusher that she does not see herself in their chapter and would prefer to not receive a bid from them. If her rushee has any sense she'll tell an advisor who will remove Sally from the bid list altogether. Sally PNM can still rank them second, not suiciding, but there would be a snow balls chance of her getting an XYZ bid.

Or you could be a lot more polite about it and when someone asks you what you are looking for in a sorority say, "XYZ" (which is NOT the house you are standing in!) Yes, it actually happened!!

[Stef the Pef]

Originally Posted by ADPiZXalum

Or you could be a lot more polite about it and when someone asks you what you are looking for in a sorority say, "XYZ" (which is NOT the house you are standing in!) Yes, it actually happened!!

Yep, it does. And although you hate hearing it, it certainly makes your decision in MS a lot easier. (I like it when they say the name of my chapter in what they're looking for, though. Say that a little slower again, PNM. Ohhhh yeeeeah. That's what I like to hear. Oh baby, oh baby. )

Rumblytumbly, I'm sorry that you didn't get the chapter you wanted, but at least now you have a year to get to know the different groups better and be more organized for next time. If you heart wasn't in the chapter who offered you a bid, I'm glad that you knew yourself well enough not to go through a semester of trying to fit in where you didn't feel right. Hopefully when you try again, you'll go through with an open mind--a lot can change in a year, and who knows, you may fall in love with the same house or you may find somewhere else! Good luck with starting your year.