nolegirl88's FSU recruitment thread!

BadSquirrelBeta · #1 08-24-2006, 02:07 AM

You keep on giving us the updates and we will keep you boosted with support and good advice from GC'ers who have been there and done that.

texasmom · #2 08-24-2006, 02:48 AM

As everyone says, it only takes one. My daughter is going through the same thing right now at Texas A&M. Stay positive -- You're doing great! Love your idea of naming GLOs for countries! Classic!

LouisaMay · #3 08-24-2006, 10:01 AM

I love your code names, by the way! Rush really does feel like travel.

Good luck!

kchaptergphib · #4 08-24-2006, 11:28 AM

It sounds to me like you're doing great, nolegirl. Keep up your energy and your great attitude!
Good luck!

NoleMom · #5 08-24-2006, 01:37 PM

Nolegirl, you ARE doing great. I am wishing all the best for you today and am thinking that you could be walking down the sidewalk right now beside my daughter going to the next house. Your honest and open attitude is wonderful. Sounds like you would be a great addition to any house. I'm enjoying your thread very much.

nolegirl88 · #6 08-24-2006, 10:25 PM

Well, I'm feeling kind of depressed right now. I'm realizing that the one house that was in my top 2 (spain), I don't really like as much now. The girls I spoke to, I just didn't really click with. One girl said a comment that really offended me, and I don't think she really noticed or cared. It might just be the girls I spoke to today, but it left a bad taste in my mouth after that incident. The second house I visited today (Germany) was interesting, but I still don't think I'd fit in there. One girl I spoke to was very nice, but the others just seemed distracted. Today didn't go too well..we had to list our top 7 and lowest 5 on the computers, which was very easy for me since I only had 5 houses and had to accept all of them. I really hope I get invited back to Greece. I'm wondering if maybe I'm doing something wrong. I am a bit on the quiet side, so I dont know if maybe the girls are interpreting that as being disinterested. Does anybody have any suggestions to show my interest in a group? I'm surprised I'd get such heavy cuts in the beginning, especially with recs. I'm just starting to think sorority life is not for me, even though it sounds really great. I don't want to join a group that's not interested in me.. and there's still so much else to do at FSU.

maybe that's just my headache and tiredness speaking..hopefully tomorrow morning will go over well!

AGDee · #7 08-24-2006, 10:41 PM

If you read the BamaDaughter thread, you'll see that this was about the phase where she also started to doubt how she was presenting herself to the sisters and was feeling like they were more distracted and disinterested. Please keep in mind that they are also very tired and losing steam at this stage of Recruitment. They are probably not at their best. They are not only spending all this time during events having to be enthusiastic and friendly, but they are also spending hours on set up, clean up and membership selection before and after the events! It can wipe them out. Just wait and see before you jump to conclusions.

NoleMom · #8 08-24-2006, 10:47 PM

Nolegirl, you are no doubt exhausted beyond belief. Rushing has got to be such hard work, staying "up" and going at such a pace! You take heart, there is no right or wrong at this point - you just need some sleep. Say a little prayer, turn it over and you'll feel better in the morning. I'm sorry you were disappointed today. But remember that the rushers are probably exhausted too and surely didn't want to offend you or at least I hope not.
Just do your best and my best wishes will be with you tomorrow - take heart!

violetpretty · #9 08-24-2006, 10:50 PM

Keep your chin up and keep going. Pref night is really the best time to decide where you feel comfortable/if you want to go greek or not, since you get a more comprehensive view of the sororities, and since you'll be visiting chapters that want you there.

Showing interest is often a fine line between excitement and cockiness. A good way to show interest is to ask lots of questions and look happy to be there. Talk about what positions you could take--and maybe you are talking to a girl with a position, and she can elaborate on what she does. Interest in leadership is a good indicator that a PNM is interested and would be a good member. Obviously, if you're not interested in taking a leadership position, don't feign interest. You can ask about living in the house, too, if that interests you.

Ask about the new member period and if they have or what kind of big/lil activities. Ask the sister about her big or little. This is a good way to gear conversation toward something a little more meaningful, because you can get an idea of how strong their sisterhood is. Hope this helps, and stick with it, it's worth it at the end!