Would you date your friend's ex?

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Originally Posted by mrguydude

Well, I am actually dealing with this very situation. It sucks big time, and I have never felt this torn in my life. On one hand I love this girl and I mean the real deal. On the other hand I love my friend dearly. I know I can't put my friend through this. Also, if I don't go through with this I will be left thinking "what if". Either choice I make will destroy a heart and make a heart. I know I would be betraying a friend. I also know that I may very well betray my own heart. This is not a situation I chose to be in because we all know that love just kinda happens. It's easy to talk about this from an outside perspective in black and white/right and wrong terms. But, when you are sitting up late at night feeling equally happy and guilty those lines begin to blur. What is right for my friend may hurt me. What is right for me may hurt my friend. Somebody has a cross to bear, does it really matter either way? Of course I have sought advice from other friends and family. Again, it's all equally split. There is no simple answer and I can't claim to have found my own. Either path I take will have a heavy toll on me and someone else. I have a heart in each hand and have to decide which one to crush. His or hers. Either way I walk away from this as both a hero and villain. What would you do?

Wow, good luck to you. I wonder if you have talked to your friend about this situation, I mean the friend who is part of this situation? How does he feel? I think that that may be the only way to get some form of solace. Once again, good luck!