How to Soothe This Pain???

[BadSquirrelBeta]

I am so sorry!! Please follow what these ladies that know the climate at these schools are suggesting if that is the path your daughter is intending to stay in pursuit of...

I can feel your pain as a mother wanting to make things right. You are a good lady and I am sure your daughter IS the "total package".

Keep in touch...I have seen the people on these boards rally around people in situations like this and be a great support to them!!

[bamauga]

I feel your pain and that of your daughter. In addition to the advice about keeping her options open for later membership opportunities, I want to suggest a somewhat different direction. My daughter has found that attending a group at UGA like Crossroads, Wesley, RUF, and/or Campus Outreach has provided her with a much-needed peer group, composed of friends from her own sorority, other greeks, and people who are not involved in greek life.

[MTSUGURL]

I just want to hug your daughter. I know she's hurting - and you're a wonderful mom to be right there hurting with her and comforting her. When I was cut, my mom replied with, "What's the big deal?" You are doing everything right in this situation.

I hope that your daughter will get involved in other areas on campus- and from what you've said about her, I believe she will get involved rather than moping her first year. (Although she is definitely entitled to ice cream and pj's for a major moping session.) I hope that she finds activities that she truly loves on campus, and should she desire to try recruitment again, I hope that she will have a wonderful result.

For the moment, lots of hugs and kudos to you for your handling of your little girl.

[yehornay]

Ga Mom, please check your pm's.

FSU Mom

[BetteDavisEyes]

I'm sorry things didn't work out for your daughter. Just continue to be there for her as you have been doing all along.

[Tom Earp]

While I am sure it hurts, but is there a chance that she can join another House?

While it may sound crass, things do happen.

One of My own low number Brothers (54) joined a Fraternity across the steet from ours.

We all got over it and He was happy so all was good.

As some have said, COB or I think a new wording COR is still a posibilty.

The best of Luck to your daughter.

[Southern Mom]

GAMom:

Please know there are others who have felt your pain. Several years ago, my daughter had the "perfect rush," with no cuts. When it came down to ranking her final choices prior to Pref, she ended up with her top two choices, and that is what she preffed (at her school, you only pref a maximum of two groups).

After Pref, she ranked her choices and signed her pref card. However, she did not "match" and therefore did not receive a bid.

Certainly, she was disappointed, particularly when she found out she was the only PNM who did not "match." However, she also recognized that had she changed the order of her choices, there might have been a different outcome. Oh, the coulda, shoulda, wouldas of life!

In retrospect, my daughter said it would have been better to have been cut earlier in the process and left with fewer choices, instead of having the "perfect rush" end as it did.

While my daughter's experience isn't quite the same as your daughter's experience, GA Mom, I do understand the pain. The good thing is, life goes on and if your daughter is anything like mine, she will be just fine.