Good Luck BamaDaughter!

MSKKG · #1 08-18-2006, 07:47 PM

Don't borrow trouble yet. It could be that's just how it worked out. When will she find out her invitations for the next round?

BamaDad · #2 08-18-2006, 08:04 PM

They find out tomorrow morning at 7:00 AM.

proudmom · #3 08-18-2006, 08:14 PM

As an aside, here's a silly question: if you can go to up to 8 parties, why do they call it six party day?

Zillini · #4 08-19-2006, 04:55 AM

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Originally Posted by proudmom

As an aside, here's a silly question: if you can go to up to 8 parties, why do they call it six party day?

It's not a silly question but I have a silly answer. First off there were 7 parties during this round, not 8. Second, in years past there were only 6 parties, hence the nickname Six Party Round. But due to the incredibly large number of PNMs that are participating in Recruitment this year at Alabama they increased the number to 7. No one knows (or is admitting

) why Panhellenic didn't change the name. Many folks refer to it simply as Skit Day.

A little more FYI if anyone's interested. Years ago the previous round was called Ten Party since that was the number of parties . Once we adopted Philanthropy Day everyone started calling it that. Also, the first round was Ice Water Tea and still is for many. However, it has been officially changed by our Panhellenic to Open House. Finally, the last round that most folks call Preference is referred to as Serious Night here (regardless of the time of day it's held).

Another little aside, back at Illinois when I went through Rush (for me too it was called that way back when), we simply called them 1st round, 2nd, 3rd and Pref. I wonder if they still do there? I've discovered that many campuses have different nicknames for the various rounds.

bamabelle99 · #5 08-19-2006, 08:23 AM

Don't forget - Serious Night used to be held in the evenings! I missed out, but the senior class (when I pledged) was the last year they got to do Serious Night at night and I always heard it was so beautiful. I really wish we had been able to do that!

By the way - ROLL TIDE!!

irishpipes · #6 08-19-2006, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Zillini

Another little aside, back at Illinois when I went through Rush (for me too it was called that way back when), we simply called them 1st round, 2nd, 3rd and Pref. I wonder if they still do there? I've discovered that many campuses have different nicknames for the various rounds.

When I was there we either called them "rounds" or "stages" - first stage, second stage, etc. I think that is still the terminology there.

BamaDad · #7 08-19-2006, 09:21 AM

We just heard from Bama Daughter about fifteen minutes ago. Here is a recap:

* D was invited back to 13 houses of 15 after Open Houses. She cut two sororities and so attended 11 houses on Philanthropy Day.

* D was Invited back to 8 houses of 11 after Philanthropy Day. She cut four sororities and so attended 7 houses on Six Party Day.

And now for today's update.....

* D was invited back to 6 houses of 7 after Six Party Day. She cut three sororities and so will attend 3 houses at Preference Day today!

Thank all of you for your advice (private and public) as we agonized through yesterday's events. My D was obviously a bit too pessimistic when she told us abut her flat conversations at Six Party Day. She is excited and looking forward to today! We told her to let them know how much she wants to belong to any oneof their houses. There is now much more of a frontrunner than ever before, but she said she would be extremely happy with any one of the three. Amen!

UCFStefanie · #8 08-19-2006, 09:25 AM

Yippie. I was waiting for your update!!!

Congrats to your daughter. Tonight will be an emotional one for her. Prefs are always a sentimental time for the Sorority members and the PNMs.

Good Luck to your family!

TigerOwl · #9 08-19-2006, 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by irishpipes

When I was there we either called them "rounds" or "stages" - first stage, second stage, etc. I think that is still the terminology there.

Zillini and Irishpipes: University of Illinois--This is the terminology used this year----Open House (19 houses this year) over 2 days, 1st invitational (10 houses this year), 2nd invitational (5 houses--could be 6 this year), 3rd invitational (3 houses this year). Most still call 3rd, Pref. Bid day is the day after 3rd invitational.

BamaDad and BamaMom--great way to approach your daughter's recruitment. Exactly what I and DaddyOwl did when our daughter went thru in 2004 at a large greek school. Daughter flew thru recruitment with a "perfect recruitment" and picked the best house for her. Today we are the proud parents of the President of her chapter! She continued the tradition in our family of choosing a different sorority!

I know your daughter is enjoying herself right now during the serious night at 'Bama. What a thrill for all of you. May it continue to be exciting thru her bid day tomorrow.

Munchkin03 · #10 08-19-2006, 05:12 PM

This is a great thread. My parents were apathetic to antipathetic (especially my mother, who disdains the fact that both my sister and I are Greek, but hates the fact that I'm NPC even more) about my Greek experience, so it's great to hear from a parent who is genuinely excited about Recruitment!

I wish Bama put their bid list up like Auburn did. I wrote 5 Bama recs and I want to know where my girls went!

BamaDad · #11 08-18-2006, 08:28 PM

This is Bamadaughter's mom with a question--Is it normal for conversation to fade off towards the end of the week? She said that much of the conversation today seemed stilted. Often the same question was asked a few times during the 25 minute conversation. Since this happened 5 out of the 6 parties, I'm assuming (and hoping) that everyone is just getting exhausted. Any thoughts?

Sailboat Sis · #12 08-18-2006, 08:37 PM

It is typical to talk to the same girls over and over again as the rush week progresses. These are girls who like your daughter, feel comfortable with her, etc. Most likely, these are the girls who will pref her.

I met my future big at our house's first rush party and talked to her every single party round, as well as her other friends. Same goes for the other houses I eventually preffed at; they kept me with the same girls. From the other side of rush I can tell you that we get to pick which girls we talk to after the first round.

As for repeat questions, not sure what that is all about... sounds like sloppy rushing if you ask me.

EtaPhiZTA · #13 08-18-2006, 08:53 PM

BamaMom and BamaDad - First I think it is wonderful that you are so supportive of your daughter through this crazy process that we call recruitment.

Quite honestly, I think you may have hit the nail on the head about the repeated questions. Recruitment is a very exhausting process on both sides; I think some of that may have come through to your daughter. These times are perfect opportunities for your daughter to steer the conversation by asking a question or making a comment about a particular sorority that will open new opportunites for conversation. For example, she might ask a member what her favorite activities or memories about her sorority are or ask a direct question about a sorority's philanthropy. This will show the member that she is interested in her sorority as well smooth over the rough conversation spots.

Preference rounds, which I assume are quickly approaching, are wonderful. Your daughter will have the opportunity to see firsthand the sisterhood that each sorority shares. For me, it was the moment that answered the question where I would find my Greek home. Just tell her to listen (and speak) with her heart.

Thanks for sharing your daughter's updates with us.

BamaDad · #14 08-18-2006, 08:59 PM

Thanks for your comments. I just hope, despite the lapses in conversation, that Bamadaughter gets at least one invite tomorrow. We're keeping our fingers crossed and trying to keep her spirits up. She is quite bummed right now.

adpiucf · #15 08-18-2006, 09:41 PM

Well it could be that she didn't connect with the ladies she met today. But she's had a good recruitment so far and I can't see her blantantly not clicking with every single person she met today! So it could also very well be that everyone is exhausted and stressed out and meeting 40 new people each day. The questions get a bit repetitive and you have to tell everyone your major and hometown 14 times at one party. The sorority women are staying up late to set up, conduct membership selection and make everything perfect for the next round, while the PNMs rehash everything they saw, said and did the day before and go through the agony of having to possibly cut a sorority they like or be cut from one.

Tell her to keep her head up high-- she's had a great week so far and to keep marching ahead! I think that it's possible she may not have connected with some chapters today-- which is normal-- but it is also just as likely that everyone's tired and cranky and ready to welcome their new members.