CuriousWildcat's recruitment story at UK

[adpiucf]

I am in no way advocating lying, but I also want to point out that the chapters have virtually zero contact with one another during recruitment outside of submitting disks (or whatever they're submitting these days to get invite lists). This isn't a hard and fast silence rule that I am aware of, but they're far too busy (or in many cases don't have the relationships) to ask about specific PNMs and invite lists amid the other chapters.

If anyone asked another PNM point-blank what other sororities she was visiting, that would be pretty uncomfortable! I think a smart PNM who wants to be invited back would smile brightly answer, "Oh you know ---I don't think that's important! I'm standing in the only one that matters!"

I would think responding somewhere along those lines the sorority woman would be flattered and a PNM could change the subject by asking her hostess what she loves most about her sorority, her favorite sorority experience/tradition, etc.

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

I think a smart PNM who wants to be invited back would smile brightly answer, "Oh you know ---I don't think that's important! I'm standing in the only one that matters!"

While I'm all for answering this type of question in a positive way, I think the real challenge is finding an answer that doesn't sound like the PNM is blowing sunshine up the rusher's butt. Some of the responses suggested would have rubbed me the wrong way. (I'm not trying to pick on adpiucf - her response was simply the most recent.) Of course, it's often difficult to get the right inflection when you're reading such lines as opposed to actually hearing them.

When I rushed, our Rho Chis advised us to be pretty up front at the beginning of the parties regarding our excitement level (only if we were super excited about the house, of course). That way, the rusher never had to ask questions like, "What other houses have you visited today?" in order to mentally rank where the house stands with the PNM.

Good luck CW - I hope you really click during Amber's pref party!

[adpiucf]

No offense taken. I was never asked the "Where else are you visiting today?" question, but I could see it happening. No matter how much training and practice, there are some rushers who totally (for lack of a better word) suck at conversation and may ask an inappropriate question out of nervousness (or general stupidity).

Or say something incredibly dumb. I again reference the sorority woman who introduced herself to a PNM at a party as, "Hi! I'm Bree. You know-- like the cheese?" True story!

[SydneyK]

...Like the cheese? Wow, she sounds great.

Every group has women who are more skilled at rush than others, but some women are so off the mark it's crazy. When I rushed, at one of the parties a couple of the members were talking about how you never see cows in the process of lying down - you always see them either standing or lying. Another member overheard, interrupted our conversation, and said, "I've seen it! This is how they do it..." then proceeded to demonstrate how cows lie down. That was a fun day.

[CuriousWildcat]

Sadly, I just found out that I didn't recieve an invite back to pref. . I'm still considering COR. Thank you all for your support.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by CuriousWildcat

I'm still considering COR.

Please do. It's a way for the groups to get a better look at you, in a less competitive enviroment.

[LaneSig]

Sweetie -

I'm really sorry and can imagine your disappointment. Hold your head high. With COR, COB, or Snap Bidding, you never know what might happen.

[AchtungBaby80]

I'm really sorry. Sometimes it happens, but that doesn't make it suck any less. You went in with a good attitude, though, and I'm glad you're still considering COR...there are usually several chapters participating in COR every year, so don't give up. You might also be eligible for a snap bid...someone correct me if I'm wrong?

[adpiucf]

CW-- I'm sorry it didn't work out. It's totally ok to be bummed and we're sending hugs your way. This also calls for a chocolate sundae and some retail therapy!!!!

Don't be a stranger, friend. Please keep us posted on your college news/sorority persuits if you go to post-recruitment events. We're all rooting for your happiness!!!

[SIGKAP DAWG]

Do COB. That is where we got some of our best girls. Also many may suicide after prefs and leave a lot of open spots. Good luck & keep us posted.

[CuriousWildcat]

So Im kinda confused on COR, is it that you participate with all of the chapters that are eligable or is it focused on one house for each girl?