CuriousWildcat's recruitment story at UK

[adpiucf]

Nothing wrong with saying it in a way that shows them you are interested:

"I am so excited to be back here at XYZ today!"

"I was so happy when I saw I'd been invited back to XYZ today! I really love everyone I have met!"

"Coming to XYZ each day has been my favorite part of recruitment. I'm so happy to be back today!"

[CuriousWildcat]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

"I was so happy when I saw I'd been invited back to XYZ today! I really love everyone I have met!"
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I think this is exactly what I said!

[WhiteDaisy128]

I'm crossing my fingers for you and Amber!!

[Lily1909]

Wishing you all the best with Amber!

[sport]

I have a special feeling for UK as I was born in KY. I hope you get your top choice!

[texas*princess]

Maybe it was just my school, but we were instructed to not ask "what other parties will you be going to today" type questions for several reasons.

The main one obviously being that if a PNM only got invited to a handful of parties and didn't have a full schedule, she might be feeling bummed about being rejected from the other houses she may have been interested in.

Like someone mentioned, for a lot of women, being cut at rush may be the first taste of "rejection" these women have to go through, so even though it may very well turn out to be a blessing in the end, there is still the possibility they are upset that they don't have a full party schedule like some of the other pnms may have, or maybe they got cut from a house that was their favorite up until that point.

Anyhow, I'm sending you the very very best wishes CW!!!

[adpiucf]

I am in no way advocating lying, but I also want to point out that the chapters have virtually zero contact with one another during recruitment outside of submitting disks (or whatever they're submitting these days to get invite lists). This isn't a hard and fast silence rule that I am aware of, but they're far too busy (or in many cases don't have the relationships) to ask about specific PNMs and invite lists amid the other chapters.

If anyone asked another PNM point-blank what other sororities she was visiting, that would be pretty uncomfortable! I think a smart PNM who wants to be invited back would smile brightly answer, "Oh you know ---I don't think that's important! I'm standing in the only one that matters!"

I would think responding somewhere along those lines the sorority woman would be flattered and a PNM could change the subject by asking her hostess what she loves most about her sorority, her favorite sorority experience/tradition, etc.