The 2006 Carnation Rush Thread

[southernyankee]

Originally Posted by AOII_LB93

And this quote is why I know I will not want any future daughter of mine experiencing an SEC recruitment. How sad for all of these girls who are probably wonderful PNMs.

I know what you are saying and my stomach dropped when I read carnations' post. Those poor girls! I DID point this out to my daughter when she was choosing a school, and then again when she decided to try and go greek, but it's where she's always wanted to go.

It will not be the end of the world if it doesn't go well, it will just feel like it for a time!

[carnation]

Okay, correction. Pi Phi cut Red . So did her mom's sorority. She's going back to DG instead of Pi Phi, I believe--her mom didn't quite remember.

And her mom was outside when the girls got their invitations to 6-party day and she said it was worse than what I'd heard. She said that girls were throwing up and calling home in hysterics. She overheard one girl call home and say, "Mom, don't bother flying in from Texas." This tears me up.

Almost everyone who rushes at AU gets placed, but maybe not where they want.

[dgdramadawg]

Originally Posted by carnation

Okay, correction. Pi Phi cut Red . So did her mom's sorority. She's going back to DG instead of Pi Phi, I believe--her mom didn't quite remember.

And her mom was outside when the girls got their invitations to 6-party day and she said it was worse than what I'd heard. She said that girls were throwing up and calling home in hysterics. She overheard one girl call home and say, "Mom, don't bother flying in from Texas." This tears me up.

Almost everyone who rushes at AU gets placed, but maybe not where they want.

This scares me for my sister, who will be rushing at AU next fall if that's where she ends up for school. It seems just as scary as UGA!!!

[WVU alpha phi]

[QUOTE=carnation]

And her mom was outside when the girls got their invitations to 6-party day and she said it was worse than what I'd heard. She said that girls were throwing up and calling home in hysterics. She overheard one girl call home and say, "Mom, don't bother flying in from Texas." This tears me up.
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Wow, "Mom, don't bother flying in from Texas?" That poor girl! I can't imagine my mom flying to see me during recruitment (even though I'm only 3 hours away and it wouldn't be necessary, but still). I can't believe rush is so cut throat! I talked to my mom every day during rush, but I'm pretty sure she never once offered to come to WVU to support me. I thought our rush was a little on the competitive side, I can't even IMAGINE what these girls go through!

[honeychile]

Those poor, poor women!

Please tell me that Auburn is using release figures, Carnation! ADPi always does well at Auburn!

[carnation]

Yes, Auburn uses the release figures and that's why the big groups have to release so many after second parties. Tomorrow, the girls will go to half the amount of parties, 3 instead of 6, so I guess that tonight's cuts won't be minor.

Back in the day, we weren't even allowed phone contact but apparently lots of moms are there in Auburn now and 2 of the moms that we know took their daughters out to eat tonight.

[dgdramadawg]

Originally Posted by carnation

Back in the day, we weren't even allowed phone contact but apparently lots of moms are there in Auburn now and 2 of the moms that we know took their daughters out to eat tonight.

I knew a girl who pledged Phi Mu at Auburn whose mom got them a hotel room for the week of rush so the girl had a place to relax after each round without thinking about rush (since that's what the dorm is buzzing with). It was really sweet of her mom, but I'm sure it was expensive!

My mom and I are already planning that if my sister pledges either of our houses next fall, the one of us who is her new sister will be there on bid day. I think a lot of moms/sisters do this if they live nearby, but I can't imagine flying in from Texas!

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by carnation

Back in the day, we weren't even allowed phone contact but apparently lots of moms are there in Auburn now and 2 of the moms that we know took their daughters out to eat tonight.

Wow, times have changed quickly! As recently as 1998, when some of my HS friends were rushing in the South, the no-contact rule was still in place at the SEC schools.

Originally Posted by kddani

I can understand tradition, family pressure, etc. etc. But come on! Not being in a sorority- or better yet- not being in a particular sorority (I bet a lot of these girls still had at least one invite, not THAT many girls get totally utterly cut from everyone)- is not going to make or break a woman's life.

I never understood it from the inside when it was part of my hometown culture, and I've never understood it from the outside looking in. More than age or generation (Some of the stories about girls transferring to a big school once they've pledged a prestigious house are true, and they've been happening for a long time!), it's this odd aspect of the culture.

One of my HS friends once told me that she HAD to be in an Old Row house at UA because her mother was in this house and they always did date parties at with a certain fraternity and this is how her parents met! If she didn't join this house, then she wouldn't find a good husband and her opportunities to be in the Krewe in our hometown and to do JL were kaput.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by carnation

And her mom was outside when the girls got their invitations to 6-party day and she said it was worse than what I'd heard. She said that girls were throwing up and calling home in hysterics. She overheard one girl call home and say, "Mom, don't bother flying in from Texas." This tears me up.

I feel for girls who get cut and I can certainly understand being upset, but this is excessive... throwing up? Hysterics?

There's a lot worse things going on in the world (particularly right now), and a lot worse things that will happen to these women in the course of their life- loss of a loved one, dealing with a serious illness, losing their home, etc. I can understand tradition, family pressure, etc. etc. But come on! Not being in a sorority- or better yet- not being in a particular sorority (I bet a lot of these girls still had at least one invite, not THAT many girls get totally utterly cut from everyone)- is not going to make or break a woman's life.

[carnation]

I think it's their age too. At their age, nothing majorly bad has happened to a lot of them and they don't believe that anything bad will happen to them anyway. When you tell 18 year olds not to drive 90 mph or they'll have a wreck, most of them don't believe it.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by kddani

I feel for girls who get cut and I can certainly understand being upset, but this is excessive... throwing up? Hysterics? ...not THAT many girls get totally utterly cut from everyone)- is not going to make or break a woman's life.

He he he...not from around here, are you? Carnation is right, when you're 18 and you've been under that kind of pressure all week, hysterics and throwing up in the bushes is all part of it. I know of plenty who immediately transferred from that school...after they didn't get their #1 choice, much less no invitations. And yes, quite a few girls do get cut from everyone. With that many groups going for a certain percentage of top girls, it's bound to happen...along with the human and computer mistakes, too.
Give those girls in hysterics and in the bushes 48 hours, and things will be better.

[carnation]

No news from Auburn yet...of course bids won't be given out until 4 PM my time and I don't know what time the girls will be notified if they get no bid. Now if one of them should call and tell me that they got the terrible call, I'll say to them:

"Okay, Rainbow Girl, you have several choices-

1. You can immediately register for COB and see what happens.
2. You can get very very active on the AU campus and rush as a soph.
3. You can transfer (some girls have been accepted at and registered at more than 1 college in case this happens) and rush at the other place in a few weeks."

And we'll discuss each option. I know that some people will be dying laughing or at least shocked about number 3 but Greek life is so important to some people that women do arrange for that option. When I was growing up in Texas, people who didn't get in to a group they wanted at, say, UT, would transfer to TCU or SMU with their deferred rushes. When I was at Auburn, girls transferred to Troy or another medium-sized school. People can make fun of that all they want but there are other things in other parts of the country that are equally important.

If Greek life is what you've grown up with and always expected to do, college life without it can be unthinkable. Both watching my DZ cousin have a fabulous time with her sorority and visiting my grandmother who lived in the middle of sorority row at the U of Arkansas made me know that I just had to be Greek. Two of the Rainbow Girls are legacies and have wanted to be Greek for years.

Y'all please say a prayer for the Rainbow Girls! And all of the other Auburn PNMs

[ADPi Conniebama]

Wow I am nervous for them - I bet the "not good" phone call is between 12 and 1. So, if you don't hear from them after that then it is good news. Also, if you feel like telling them before the "call time" to be open for "snap bidding" they might be more open to your call - Just don't call between 12 and 1


eeek I am excited for them - I wish I were there.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by ADPi Conniebama

Just don't call between 12 and 1

I know I posted this somewhere here in the past but for that hour, my rush group was huddled together waiting to see if the phone in our area would ring because supposedly it had meant that one of us wasn't getting a bid. The phone rang and finally someone got it and our rush counselor said, "Just wnted to tell you that you all got bids!" We wanted to run over and smack her upside of the head for scaring us.

[ShaedyKD]

Originally Posted by carnation

3. You can transfer (some girls have been accepted at and registered at more than 1 college in case this happens) and rush at the other place in a few weeks."

You've got to be kidding me. People actually do this?