Does a legacy need a letter of recommendation?

[AlphaFrog]

I would think that the thought would also cross the mind of the actives: "If she's a legacy, why couldn't she even get her mother/grandmother/sister to write her a rec? Did they not want her to be an XYZ?". Especially at schools where recs are required.

[_Lisa_]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I would think that the thought would also cross the mind of the actives: "If she's a legacy, why couldn't she even get her mother/grandmother/sister to write her a rec? Did they not want her to be an XYZ?". Especially at schools where recs are required.

At some schools recs are unheard of, but I think thats a damn good question.

[jadis96]

Originally Posted by crzychx

At some schools recs are unheard of, but I think thats a damn good question.

My college didn't use recs, but we did get letters about legacies from their families or sisters of their mom's. For example we had one letter from an alum telling us "Suzy" was a legacy through her mother, but her mother who had been in her chapter had passed away while "Suzy" was still in middle school.

[mythreedd]

Are you considered a legacy if a pnm's mother was pledged and was initiated but later transferred schools and graduated from a school where there was not a Greek system?

Thanks!

[OtterXO]

Originally Posted by mythreedd

Are you considered a legacy if a pnm's mother was pledged and was initiated but later transferred schools and graduated from a school where there was not a Greek system?

Thanks!

I believe if she took alum status as opposed to resigning her membership then the PNM would be a legacy.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by mythreedd

Are you considered a legacy if a pnm's mother was pledged and was initiated but later transferred schools and graduated from a school where there was not a Greek system?

Thanks!

Yes. If she was initiated and never terminated, yes.

[AGDLynn]

This happened to me recently when I was doing a recommendation.

The pnm listed her gmother as being an "Alpha Gamma". I looked on our member site but didn't see the gmother's name. I called her mom and while her mom was on the phone with me, she was also on the cell phone calling her mom to verify what sorority.

Says yes, it was Alpha Gamma Delta and she even remembered the songs!

So, I called IHQ to verify that the gmother was in Good Standing, thankfully she was.

I called back to mom and got gmother's email address and sent her some info and suggested she update her contact info on the Alpha Gam website.

I still sent in the RIF and the gmother was going to send in a legacy form.

On another note, I know of an Alpha Gam who's mother didn't tell her SHE was an Alpha Gam until after the collegiate pledged. Not sure why.

But often, pnm's don't realize that it is to their benefit to make sure they tripled check with mom, gmother, etc. to see if they were initiated into a sorority and in Good Standing (if not, the member might say no, I wasn't an XXX and not have to explain what happened)....of course this applies to the guys too!!

[Drolefille]

Our campus' regsitration forms had the question "do you have any relatives who were in a sorority or fraternity" Technically the form was for fraternity rush too, but the one or two times guys actually filled one out they got sent to panhel. Imagine going through facebook and finding out a PNM is a guy! Oops!

Anyway, girls would list anyone and everyone they were related to who was Greek. This meant that if she put down that her cousin was an XYZ, panhel's list of legacies included Susie PNM as an XYZ legacy EVEN if XYZ only counted mothers or grandmothers. Recommendations were basically unknown on our campus and I don't recall girls getting dropped strictly because they were legacies. In fact we enjoyed "stealing" legacies from each other.

[carnation]

bumping because I've been asked this lately