need advice on some trouble!!!

[AOIIalum]

Originally Posted by amom

The canoodling friend is in the same class and rushing at the same school. Her sister is also an active. Do you think it will be okay? My daughter just wants the friend to grow up and get over it!

Honestly, I don't think that there's anyway to say it would or wouldn't be okay. It might be, but it could be a nightmare because girls just can be that way. I can remember being a 16-18 year old and girls were catty. It doesn't mean it'll be that way for your daughter, but it's something to be aware of.

[OleMissGlitter]

I would tell her not to get her heart set on one sorority. She needs to stay open-minded and go through and meet as many girls as possible. In this situation one never knows....

[amom]

Thank you for some great advice. I just want her to go through rush with her eyes open to all possibilities. This situation has actually helped her to be a little more open minded in regards to being open to the Greek system and not just one house, which to me is the way most PNMs should go through! Thanks for reinforcing what I already knew in my heart!

[kathykd2005]

You are definitely giving her wonderful advice. I actually knew one of my sisters from high school and to make a long story short, she didn't like me because she thought I wanted to date her boyfriend. A lot of times in college, people change, or realize things weren't the way they seemed when people were younger. One thing she has to remember, though, is: would she want this type of girl as her sorority sister? I would recommend she make a list of all the things she would like in a sorority and or group of friends. If they don't fit the mold, she might want to look into another house.

[Stef the Pef]

If the other girl is rushing at the same time, what's to say that she won't go into another house? Rush week is unpredictable sometimes, and girls shouldn't go in with a negative view of a whole house just because of one person (especially if that person is only a legacy going through rush with her)!

What happened doesn't sound like your daughter's fault and she shouldn't worry about it. If she's going through recruitment, she's going to meet all kinds of wonderful new people, both in her recruitment groups and at the various houses. Concentrate on having a blast for the whole week and keep an open mind. It sounds like you've given her great advice!

[jadis96]

Originally Posted by Stef the Pef

What happened doesn't sound like your daughter's fault and she shouldn't worry about it. If she's going through recruitment, she's going to meet all kinds of wonderful new people, both in her recruitment groups and at the various houses. Concentrate on having a blast for the whole week and keep an open mind. It sounds like you've given her great advice!

Great advice!