Obesity

tunatartare · #1 07-20-2006, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by blueangel

I think I have a wierd mother. (in a nice way!)

Anytime I have a new boyfriend, she keeps saying to me, "What do you want a man for? They're nothing but trouble!" and "Don't get married!" LOL!

Any chance you'd want to trade mothers? I've mentioned this in the D&R forum before, but back in the old country, it was thought that if a woman wasn't married by age 22, then she was destined to be an old maid forever and no man would want to marry her. My mom got married at 20. I'm 23, still single, and have no intentions of getting married anywhere in the foreseeable future. So as my entire family likes to remind my parents and I every chance they possibly get, there is no hope left for me.

Drolefille · #2 07-20-2006, 12:11 PM

I have the grandma who's doing the same thing, except her comments are more like: You have to be from your Dad's side of the family, you don't look like our side. You have the body from your dad's side.. we're smaller.

You don't have "Mom's family" hands, do you?

Ever thought about getting your nose done? Why not? Don't you wish your nose was skinny and cute like mine? (Yeah you bought yours grandma..)

And... "I've heard of the freshman 15 but aren't you supposed to lose that?"

I'm not obese by anymeans, but I'm overweight for my bodyframe and THANK YOU senile grandma, I'm aware of that.

My mom on the other hand has asked me if I want to do Atkins with her or if I'm interested in doing Weight Watchers or something like that. That I'm ok with because she's offering solutions not ripping on me

blueangel · #3 07-20-2006, 12:35 PM

There was an old lady who lived on my street. One day, after I said hello to her, she said, "You know, you're such a pretty girl, but I hate those earrings."

So, I simply replied, "Well, I hate your hat!"

She looked shocked for a moment, and then said, "Ok, I guess that's fair." And she laughed.

Sometimes older people don't realize what they're saying is hurtful... and sometimes, you just have to point it out to them.

Drolefille · #4 07-20-2006, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by blueangel

There was an old lady who lived on my street. One day, after I said hello to her, she said, "You know, you're such a pretty girl, but I hate those earrings."

So, I simply replied, "Well, I hate your hat!"

She looked shocked for a moment, and then said, "Ok, I guess that's fair." And she laughed.

Sometimes older people don't realize what they're saying is hurtful... and sometimes, you just have to point it out to them.

Yeah, she doesn't really realize that what she's saying is hurtful.. but she doesn't stop because she has short term memory problems

jadis96 · #5 07-20-2006, 06:43 PM

As someone who lost 45 lbs recently and is trying to lose 45 more (I got stuck at a plateau on weight watchers UGH!) I can say something very clearly.... I Know I am fat. This is not news to me. I have known since I was in junior high school. I was on the swim team, trying wearing a speedo in front of your whole school for meets, it doesn't let you escape the fact you are fat.

I was lucky I had friends who were supportive of me instead of tearing me down. Even when I was my heavist they encouraged me with comments like "I noticed your legs are more toned then they used to be, that is great, keep it up. Did you go to the gym today cause you are looking good." Those kind of comments kept me from getting more depressed (most of my weight come on from losing several family members in a short amount of time) and kept me moviated. They even went out of their way to suggest resturants that had lower fat options so I would not feel "weird" asking for something different. Friends should raise you up not tear you down.

If it's a sudden weight gain or loss approach it more from the attitude you see of the person. My best friend flat out sat me down and said "I know losing your grandma was super hard on you, since then I have noticed some changes in you. Can I help make anything better?" She started weight watchers with me even though she only wanted to lose 10 lbs. We both joined the same gym and she made sure I didn't go alone the first few weeks.

James · #6 08-11-2006, 04:11 AM

I think it might be relevant to point out the obesity issue if it pertinent to the converation.

IF someone who is very overweight has trouble getting members of the opposit sex to like them, and they complain about it, a gentle hint that weight loss might help could be beneficial.

Same thing if they always complain of being over tired or have related health problems.

blueangel · #7 08-11-2006, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by James

I think it might be relevant to point out the obesity issue if it pertinent to the converation.

IF someone who is very overweight has trouble getting members of the opposit sex to like them, and they complain about it, a gentle hint that weight loss might help could be beneficial.

Same thing if they always complain of being over tired or have related health problems.

And, I totally disagree. Do you actually think they don't know why they are having trouble getting a date? Do you actually think they don't know why they don't feel well?

Fat does not cause brain damage. Give overweight people some credit!

Jimmy Choo · #8 08-11-2006, 04:55 PM

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Originally Posted by jadis96

As someone who lost 45 lbs recently and is trying to lose 45 more (I got stuck at a plateau on weight watchers UGH!)

Congrats on those 45 pounds!!!!!!!! Hitting the plateau SUCKS. I've lost 20 lbs. myself and now I've hit a plateau as well. But knowing that it can be done gives me the motivation to get the rest of it off!!!!!