Co-worker?

[xo_kathy]

Eh, I don't agree with the others. I met my husband at work.

We worked in the same department and while he was not MY supervisor, he was a superior. However, we didn't "officially" start dating until the last week I was there, but we had our share flirting and lunch dates before I left. Also, given your environment (I would assume a library to be a it more laid back than an investment bank), I think it would be fine. And if you don't work with him constantly, if it doesn't work out I doubt it would get that awkward.

All that said, I'd give it a little more time before you push a date. I'd go with the sitting by him at lunch, or casually tell him your heading to lunch "wanna come", that kind of stuff. Do a little more casual, getting to know you stuff at work. Give him some time to see what he's thinking, too. Remember, he's brand new, he might be really nervous to ask someone out at work for fear of getting in trouble. In a month or so, if nothing progesses, then I'd do the "wanna go see an anime movie" thing.

[OtterXO]

I would just take it very slow if you do decide to "put the moves" on this guy. Anything fast will potentially freak him out or cause drama at work....both of which are undesirable, clearly. You just need to be comfortable with the fact that if things don't work it WILL be awkward everyday and you will probably want to get a new job in that case (speaking from experience). But, like Kathy said, sometimes it can end in happiness too....so be aware of the risks but go for it!

[Scandia]

Well, our talking to each other comes easily for some reason. I am more extraverted than introverted, but not by much. And now the confidence will come even easier given how much we like some of the same things. Plus there are some other things that do give me an edge.

His desk is in a different building than mine- library has two buildings connected by a tunnel. I do not know if he has started going out to the E-libraries yet, or if he is just teaching the computer classes in our main headquarters.

I do want to be friends first and take things slowly and easily. But I do fear that if I do not act "fast enough", either someone else will snag him or he will get the wrong idea about me. Again, I am not good with relationships and romance.

[JonInKC]

I think you should just go for it. Like I told that judge one drunken Thursday morning, "You can't put a restrainin order on my heart". I'm not sure if that's relevant or not. Oh well.

[GAC3710]

Why not just have sex with him in the library and see where it goes from there?

[Scandia]

Now that was tacky and definitely a reason for automatic termination.

[GAC3710]

tacky or just slutty?

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by Scandia

Now that was tacky and definitely a reason for automatic termination.

Sex in the library is not tacky. It gives law students everywhere a reason to live.