When is it ok?

[AKΨ_BRO@DSU]

Yeah. I never planned to lie to them, just kinda dance around the issue, lol. But honestly, its not them taking it the wrong way that I would be worried about, it would be how they would view my outlook on the relationship if it were to start back up.

[Drolefille]

I guess it depends, did you hate that person, or were they just not right together... That makes a big difference on the telling the truth aspect.

[chitownxo]

I had this situation with my best friend from high school, who was like my sister. A couple of years ago, she got involved with someone, as my grandma would say wasn't a quality person. In simple terms, he was, and still is, a dirt bag. He worked less than Kevin Federline, stayed in bed or played video games till 2 or 3 in the afternoon, all while supposedly writing a screenplay that would set Hollywood on fire as she supported him by working two jobs. He also hit on all (and I mean all) of her friends, "borrowed" my then boyfriend's credit card, and made fun of my mentally retarded aunt at a family gathering. They broke up, and she asked me what I thought of him. I told her exactly what I thought of him.

Guess what? They're married now. Once they got back together, she told him everything I said about him, and now we don't speak since he convinced her I was jealous of their great realtionship. Yeah, sure. I don't miss him at all (and am looking forward to his future apperance on an episode of Cops or America's Most Wanted), but I do miss her. Looking back, I could have been a little more tactful. That is, instead of saying, "He's a slimeball leech with a serious hygenie problem", I could have said, "I worry about his lack of ambition".

Lesson here is: be tactful or stay neutral.

[AKΨ_BRO@DSU]

Originally Posted by chitownxo

I had this situation with my best friend from high school, who was like my sister. A couple of years ago, she got involved with someone, as my grandma would say wasn't a quality person. In simple terms, he was, and still is, a dirt bag. He worked less than Kevin Federline, stayed in bed or played video games till 2 or 3 in the afternoon, all while supposedly writing a screenplay that would set Hollywood on fire as she supported him by working two jobs. He also hit on all (and I mean all) of her friends, "borrowed" my then boyfriend's credit card, and made fun of my mentally retarded aunt at a family gathering. They broke up, and she asked me what I thought of him. I told her exactly what I thought of him.

Guess what? They're married now. Once they got back together, she told him everything I said about him, and now we don't speak since he convinced her I was jealous of their great realtionship. Yeah, sure. I don't miss him at all (and am looking forward to his future apperance on an episode of Cops or America's Most Wanted), but I do miss her. Looking back, I could have been a little more tactful. That is, instead of saying, "He's a slimeball leech with a serious hygenie problem", I could have said, "I worry about his lack of ambition".

Lesson here is: be tactful or stay neutral.

I'm so sorry to hear that and hope the 2 of you find a way to repair your friendship.

Originally Posted by Drolefille

I guess it depends, did you hate that person, or were they just not right together... That makes a big difference on the telling the truth aspect.

I don't hate her (or anyone for that matter) but she's just really high maintance. I noticed it the first time I met her and my friend ask what I thought and I lied to to him saying "she's cool". What can you tell someone in love? Not a damn thing. And I've really just let it go because I seen that he was happy but 2 weeks ago his family expressed the same thing about her...which is why I'm concerned again.

[RU OX Alum]

well, you're his friend, so be his friend, if you think she's a little high maintence then maybe mention something to that effect but def. let him vent re: his family