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[BlueReign]

This happened to me only once and very recently. A Kappa in my building threw up our hand sign. I was like "huh?" He said that back in the day we used to do that because you all are our sisters. (He's 50+ or so.) I told him that I have never seen that done before.

Soror, now as for your friend -- you've told her but if she does it again I would punch her in the face! (just kidding). Seriously, just like anything else, if you tell someone that something offends you and they continue to do it then that is not a friend.

I would say that maybe she doesn't know any better and no one told her but now that you have.... keep us updated if she persists.

[SeriousSigma22]

Sorhor,

That's really a very interesting dilemma and since you value the friendship just reestablish the ground rules. You might have to back away from the friendship if the behavior continues.

Serioussigma22

[MightyQuinn]

The only time I have ever had someone do our call is when it's a man. For some reason dudes get a kick out of it- go figure. I've been a Delta long enough that the things that used to get under my skin just role off my back now. You mentioned she is an AKA I'm sure she is well aware of greek etiquette so if she continues to do it then I think it's safe to say that there is more to it then her trying to get your attention. Obviously you are very bothered by your friend doing your call so short of sitting her down and explaining why you want her to stop what else are you willing to do? (Please don't say go to blows).

[dzdst796]

Originally Posted by MightyQuinn

The only time I have ever had someone do our call is when it's a man. For some reason dudes get a kick out of it- go figure. I've been a Delta long enough that the things that used to get under my skin just role off my back now. You mentioned she is an AKA I'm sure she is well aware of greek etiquette so if she continues to do it then I think it's safe to say that there is more to it then her trying to get your attention. Obviously you are very bothered by your friend doing your call so short of sitting her down and explaining why you want her to stop what else are you willing to do? (Please don't say go to blows).

That is so the correct and mature way to go, but I still would want to knock her out if she continued to do it.

[MightyQuinn]

Originally Posted by dzdst796

That is so the correct and mature way to go, but I still would want to knock her out if she continued to do it.

Believe me when I say I would want to bop the hoe in the back of the neck too but I'm sure calmer heads would prevail...I hope

[ZetaStorm]

OK that situation is a little crazy. I crossed in spring 92 and then it was common for us to greet another greek by using our call which was then followed by their call and all of the Greeks did this. But even then it was spoken not really called. It was short and quick. It was considered a matter of respect. We didn't use it to get anyone's attention but it was more like saying hello. We could be passing on the yard or whatever. Now in your situation I'm not sure what in the world is going on there. I've never experienced another greek using my actual call to get my attention let alone my handsign (????). Are you sure she's really greek? I just find it hard to believe that her Sorors haven't called her out on that if they've seen her do it. You did say she is a 'friend?' I don't know what to say of that because either way you've asked her to stop and she's still doing it maybe there is a deeper rooted problem there. I wouldn't beat her down for it (at least not in my letters, just kidding) that's not Finer Womanhood - LOL Take MightyQuinn's advice that would be the right thing to do.