dilemma

dzdst796 · #1 07-07-2006, 07:46 AM

Well I am in Jersey and I have not encountered that. When I want to get another Greeks attention I just go over to them, if I can't get to them I will do my own call to get their attention. I don't get it. I have a good friend that is a member of SGR and I never thought to do her call to get her attention. Just my opinion.

divainred · #2 07-07-2006, 03:16 PM

I'm in DC and originally from the midwest and I've also never experienced that. I think it is simply a matter of respect. The first time, ok, she made a mistake, but it sounds as if you have told her that you don't like when she does that and she has continued to. As your close friend, even if she originally thought it was ok (which I don't think it is), once you told her to please stop...she should have.

It's not you, she's being disrespectful

, if she wanted to be able to throw up your sign and do your call, then she should have put in the hard work to get those rights. There is definitely a standard: put in the work to get the benefits, otherwise stop perpetrating.

mulattogyrl · #3 07-07-2006, 03:37 PM

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Originally Posted by dzdst796

Well I am in Jersey and I have not encountered that. When I want to get another Greeks attention I just go over to them, if I can't get to them I will do my own call to get their attention. I don't get it. I have a good friend that is a member of SGR and I never thought to do her call to get her attention. Just my opinion.

I can't say I've encountered this either. It's a matter of respect. I can't imagine doing one of my sistergreek's calls to get their attention. It's not only disrespecting them, but my org as well. I'll just call their name or do my call like Steph said. While I have heard of people combining calls if you already told her you don't like it, she should stop doing it if she cares about your feelings.

BlueReign · #4 07-07-2006, 08:34 PM

This happened to me only once and very recently. A Kappa in my building threw up our hand sign. I was like "huh?" He said that back in the day we used to do that because you all are our sisters. (He's 50+ or so.) I told him that I have never seen that done before.

Soror, now as for your friend -- you've told her but if she does it again I would punch her in the face! (just kidding). Seriously, just like anything else, if you tell someone that something offends you and they continue to do it then that is not a friend.

I would say that maybe she doesn't know any better and no one told her but now that you have.... keep us updated if she persists.

SeriousSigma22 · #5 07-08-2006, 09:37 PM

Sorhor,

That's really a very interesting dilemma and since you value the friendship just reestablish the ground rules. You might have to back away from the friendship if the behavior continues.

Serioussigma22

MightyQuinn · #6 07-09-2006, 09:01 AM

The only time I have ever had someone do our call is when it's a man. For some reason dudes get a kick out of it- go figure. I've been a Delta long enough that the things that used to get under my skin just role off my back now. You mentioned she is an AKA I'm sure she is well aware of greek etiquette so if she continues to do it then I think it's safe to say that there is more to it then her trying to get your attention. Obviously you are very bothered by your friend doing your call so short of sitting her down and explaining why you want her to stop what else are you willing to do? (Please don't say go to blows).

dzdst796 · #7 07-10-2006, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by MightyQuinn

The only time I have ever had someone do our call is when it's a man. For some reason dudes get a kick out of it- go figure. I've been a Delta long enough that the things that used to get under my skin just role off my back now. You mentioned she is an AKA I'm sure she is well aware of greek etiquette so if she continues to do it then I think it's safe to say that there is more to it then her trying to get your attention. Obviously you are very bothered by your friend doing your call so short of sitting her down and explaining why you want her to stop what else are you willing to do? (Please don't say go to blows).

That is so the correct and mature way to go, but I still would want to knock her out if she continued to do it.

MightyQuinn · #8 07-10-2006, 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by dzdst796

That is so the correct and mature way to go, but I still would want to knock her out if she continued to do it.

Believe me when I say I would want to bop the hoe in the back of the neck too but I'm sure calmer heads would prevail...I hope