Tacky wedding "invitation"

[tunatartare]

how is this different from the ghetto weddings thread?

[KSigkid]

Originally Posted by KLPDaisy

how is this different from the ghetto weddings thread?

My comment wasn't on this thread in particular, but on the dating and relationships board as a whole. I think people on the board tend to be hyper-critical of others weddings. That's just my opinion, and others are entitled to theirs.

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by KSigkid

My comment wasn't on this thread in particular, but on the dating and relationships board as a whole. I think people on the board tend to be hyper-critical of others weddings. That's just my opinion, and others are entitled to theirs.

It's just not GC (but they are among the worst). If I ever get married, I think we will just go to Vegas or something, and have a crazy bachlorette's party (they don't have to buy me anything except drinks). Until recently, I had no idea how much weddings and wedding related stuff stir up sooooo much drama (among friends, family, and people you work with).

[KSigkid]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

It's just not GC (but they are among the worst). If I ever get married, I think we will just go to Vegas or something, and have a crazy bachlorette's party (they don't have to buy me anything except drinks). Until recently, I had no idea how much weddings and wedding related stuff stir up sooooo much drama (among friends, family, and people you work with).

That is completely your right. Honestly, my wife and I had a more "traditional" wedding; we got married at our Episcopal church in Boston, invited a whole bunch of family (and some friends), and had the reception at a ballroom in town. It was traditional, big (we have huge, close families), and just right for us. On the other hand, my parents got married in Vegas, and they've been married over 30 years. Larger weddings don't necessarily mean the relationship is doomed, small weddings don't mean that the people have their priorities straight, and vice-versa...

I tend to think of a wedding as a very personal experience, and I think during the planning phases you can be very sensitive to other's feelings on the matter. That's why I didn't go near this forum while we were planning, and I don't think it's a good idea for others in the planning stages to read the posts. You're bound to find someone calling your wedding plan "tacky," "over-the-top," or a waste of money.

People have the right to be as picky as they want, but I think in most cases the posts on this board are the last things people want or need to hear about their own wedding.

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by KSigkid

My comment wasn't on this thread in particular, but on the dating and relationships board as a whole. I think people on the board tend to be hyper-critical of others weddings. That's just my opinion, and others are entitled to theirs.

I'll be the first to admit that I am hyper-critical in some respects when it comes to weddings -- there are certain things that I consider tacky under any circumstances and would be inclined to talk some shit if people do them.

For the most part, however, I consider weddings a colossal waste of time and money. They're like my-super-sweet-16 (or whatever that show is) for adults.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

For the most part, however, I consider weddings a colossal waste of time and money. They're like my-super-sweet-16 (or whatever that show is) for adults.

Just a question: Do you consider ALL weddings (courthouse, private close friends/family only, etc) a waste of time and money...or just the outragous multiple thousand dollar ones??

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Just a question: Do you consider ALL weddings (courthouse, private close friends/family only, etc) a waste of time and money...or just the outragous multiple thousand dollar ones??

I'd say most. I find showers and bachelorette parties more exciting than the ceremony itself. Unless of course, if someone does something crazy like getting married on motorcycles. Anyone watch those crazy wedding shows on the NG channel?

I don't think I will feel any different if I get married.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by KSigkid

My comment wasn't on this thread in particular, but on the dating and relationships board as a whole. I think people on the board tend to be hyper-critical of others weddings. That's just my opinion, and others are entitled to theirs.

This is true, and I will own up to being hyper-critical (but really, I'm like that about all social events and social etiquette--even funerals!). I remember reading one post where a member basically said that a wedding has to have a band. That, to me, was beyond the pale and is beyond being nitpicky--that's just classist. I may make a big deal about brides inviting people to the shower and not to the wedding, or about registry cards in the invitations, or people registering for anvil loppers, but I try not to be classist about my proclivities. After all, not many people can afford $40K weddings...

The most elaborate wedding I attended commenced the shortest marriage; meanwhile, my parents went to the JP and just celebrated their 35th. Food for thought...

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

or people registering for anvil loppers

Speaking of anvil loppers, I heard that she and plastic sawhorse served sheetcake at their wedding.

OH TEH HORROR.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

The most elaborate wedding I attended commenced the shortest marriage; meanwhile, my parents went to the JP and just celebrated their 35th. Food for thought...

I've been noticing this for some time now. The other thing I've noticed is that when a couple develops a "you & me against the world" attitude towards their marriage, hardly anything can break them up (elaborate wedding or not!).

[Rudey]

This is a gay thread.

-Rudey
--In fact I bet this gay thread is having sex right now with another gay thread.

[Marie]

Originally Posted by KLPDaisy

how is this different from the ghetto weddings thread?

In the ghetto weddings thread we make fun of people for fighting at a wedding, getting arrested at a wedding or getting married in the parking lot of a White Castle. Here you make fun of people for participating in the dollar dance (a custom and standard in many communities), inviting (or not inviting - depending on who's posting) all of the family and friends to a destination wedding or notifying guest of where the couple is registered at. There we find humor in extreme situations. Here we pretentiously nit pick details. See the difference?


Note: I'm not saying that you can't have threads where you do this. I'm just saying that this is not the best place to come for wedding advice.

[tunatartare]

Kinda but not really. At the end of the day, in both threads, you're criticizing people for their wedding choices and whatnot. If you don't agree with it, don't do it in either thread.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Marie

In the ghetto weddings thread we make fun of people for fighting at a wedding, getting arrested at a wedding or getting married in the parking lot of a White Castle. Here you make fun of people for participating in the dollar dance (a custom and standard in many communities), inviting (or not inviting - depending on who's posting) all of the family and friends to a destination wedding or notifying guest of where the couple is registered at. There we find humor in extreme situations. Here we pretentiously nit pick details. See the difference?

Oh, the irony.

[Marie]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Oh, the irony.

Silly girl.

I never said the thread couldn't exist. I just said this isn't the place to get advice.