dilemma

[FeeFee]

I'm not sure if this question is addressed to anyone in particular or just your sorors, but
@ the whole situation.

[dzdst796]

Seems to me like she want to be an SGR instead of an AKA. What she did was just WRONG AND DISRESPECTFUL!!! If she does it again you should let her have it.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by dzdst796

Seems to me like she want to be an SGR instead of an AKA. What she did was just WRONG AND DISRESPECTFUL!!! If she does it again you should let her have it.

well i aint one to question someone's interest. she seems really into her AKA, and nothing else. however, she says she knew she wanted to be an AKA was when she saw some members stepping in 3" stilettos.

well if that's what inspires you, go for it. i'm wondering has anything close to this happen to anyone? i know its obvious to not do other people's stuff, but 2 of my sorors said theyve randomly ran into other greeks (male and female) that will do our call to get their attention, or combine theirs with ours (i guess the way Kappas will go EEE-YOOO, which i dont really get )

i just want to know if youre trying to get another greek's attention, what other way aside from totally disrespecting them and doing their call? is it a regional difference, is there a standard?

[dzdst796]

Well I am in Jersey and I have not encountered that. When I want to get another Greeks attention I just go over to them, if I can't get to them I will do my own call to get their attention. I don't get it. I have a good friend that is a member of SGR and I never thought to do her call to get her attention. Just my opinion.

[divainred]

I'm in DC and originally from the midwest and I've also never experienced that. I think it is simply a matter of respect. The first time, ok, she made a mistake, but it sounds as if you have told her that you don't like when she does that and she has continued to. As your close friend, even if she originally thought it was ok (which I don't think it is), once you told her to please stop...she should have.

It's not you, she's being disrespectful , if she wanted to be able to throw up your sign and do your call, then she should have put in the hard work to get those rights. There is definitely a standard: put in the work to get the benefits, otherwise stop perpetrating.

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by dzdst796

Well I am in Jersey and I have not encountered that. When I want to get another Greeks attention I just go over to them, if I can't get to them I will do my own call to get their attention. I don't get it. I have a good friend that is a member of SGR and I never thought to do her call to get her attention. Just my opinion.

I can't say I've encountered this either. It's a matter of respect. I can't imagine doing one of my sistergreek's calls to get their attention. It's not only disrespecting them, but my org as well. I'll just call their name or do my call like Steph said. While I have heard of people combining calls if you already told her you don't like it, she should stop doing it if she cares about your feelings.

[BlueReign]

This happened to me only once and very recently. A Kappa in my building threw up our hand sign. I was like "huh?" He said that back in the day we used to do that because you all are our sisters. (He's 50+ or so.) I told him that I have never seen that done before.

Soror, now as for your friend -- you've told her but if she does it again I would punch her in the face! (just kidding). Seriously, just like anything else, if you tell someone that something offends you and they continue to do it then that is not a friend.

I would say that maybe she doesn't know any better and no one told her but now that you have.... keep us updated if she persists.

[SeriousSigma22]

Sorhor,

That's really a very interesting dilemma and since you value the friendship just reestablish the ground rules. You might have to back away from the friendship if the behavior continues.

Serioussigma22