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Originally posted by PM_Mama00
I know that many African Americans on GC don't even like the N word being said in songs. I have a question about that... what if someone is just singing along with the song and says it un-noticeably cuz they're just singing and not really paying attention? My friend was singing Tupac's "Hit Em Up" at karaoke last night and she always leaves out "N" but last night it slipped. No one said anything to her tho because they know she always leaves it out.
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Personally, I prefer when people do not say the N word as they are singing a song. It makes me uncomfortable both when they and the original artist say it. Typically if it is someone that I know, then I'll just ask them not to use the word around me. However, I wouldn't really think that they were racist for repeating it, but I would think that they lacked a bit of tact for repeating it in my presence.
However, if someone did use it in their normal speech, then this would concern me and cause me to re-evaluate that person. I've heard most racial slurs in the book, and I've never just accidentally called/referred to someone as "fill in whatever insult u'd like here". I would be prone to think that either they are using the slur on a regular basis or at least thinking it in their heads. Like Starang referenced, people are very quick to blame their actions on liquor or whatever else, and I'm just not buying it. Most times those situations only lower one's inhibitions and allow them to forget to surpress their normal thoughts/speech.
While I don't believe that these words just 'slip', I would be able to forgive and move forward with someone if they used the word and simply acknowledged it and apologized. I've had friends who let the N word fly either b/c they were around others who used it and wanted to fit in (and I overheard them) or b/c they assumed that I'd be ok with that (from the impression that they receive from music and tv). However, the few genuine individuals who came to me, explained what happened, apologized, and sincerely made an effort to adjust their behavior have remained in the good graces.
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