Someone to tell your chapter about before recruitment

[carnation]

Okay, guys--

The reason that we have no-recs is to prevent someone who could greatly damage your chapter and/or the Greek system from pledging. I don't take this lightly. I've only used it twice in 30 years--once for the case I described above and once in the case of a girl with whom I spent 3 weeks and knew to be extremely promiscuous with strangers. In cases where I just didn't like the girl, I kept my mouth shut.

I had a zillion psychology courses and worked with disturbed people, including juvenile delinquents, for 13 years and I can tell you that if those parents are in denial that deep when their kid committed a felony, they are most certainly still in it. It never fails: the child continues to commit worse and worse acts until something really horrible happens. In this case, it already has.

So Maggie, do you want the girl wearing the letters of Alpha Xi Delta? Would she make the sorority proud? Would she contribute to the Greek system?

If not, you should write the no-rec because if you keep silent and she pledges your chapter and destroys your good name, you will never forgive yourself.