Are single women

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by wrigley
I read about that. Apparently there's a large enough portion of the military who can't pick decent spouses so your tax dollars are being spent so they can learn how to pick a proper mate. Wouldn't it be cheaper if they just watched reruns of Oprah, Dr. Phil , and Cheaters?

From what I understand and read, the military wants bonafide professional marriage counselors to discuss the pressures of holding a family together while serving, especially in times of war. What we are asking of our armed forces is to basically shutdown our emotions so that they can do their jobs effectively and not have to worry about what people think when they come home--until they have a firm grip of what happened to them... Post traumatic stress disorder does that to a person... Most family, especially young families, are unable or thought to not have the "life experience skills" to deal with that kind of "reality"... At least that is what I read.

So since Oprah, Dr. Phil and cheaters are not based on too much reality, nor are many reality TV shows, then no, I don't think many of our military personnel can learn anything from watching these shows.

Basically, how do you explain to your significant other that you cannot be with them on any holiday because you have to write the death letter of one of your combat soldiers to his/her family about an IED? Can you imaging the thoughts running through that person's mind?

And although there are the enlisted's and officer's spouse's clubs and I think they do the best they can do--because it is my understanding that many military families are borderline homeless, the need for family support is not there... In fact our government is reducing that "entitlement expense".

But if you ask me, and what do I know about the military, I think that the armed forces is really trying to stop folks from joining as "families", etc. It wrecks too much havoc on the training kinna thing... Remember when the Marines wanted to not enlist guys who were married and the ruckus it caused--like in 1998ish?