What would you do if your daughter.... - Page 2

Wonderful1908 · #16 01-12-2006, 06:39 PM

Well now that I have a daughter, I really hope that she understands there is only ONE way to go!!

My grandmother and mother are AKAs, I was named after AKA (A-K-A are 3 of the 5 letters in my name and in that order!), and my daughter would be 4th generation AKA!

You know ever since I can remember I was told AKA, so I never had the desire to do anything else. I will train my daughter the same way, a little brainwashing is good for the youth!

AKA_Monet · #17 01-12-2006, 07:13 PM

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Originally posted by Wonderful1908
Well now that I have a daughter, I really hope that she understands there is only ONE way to go!!

My grandmother and mother are AKAs, I was named after AKA (A-K-A are 3 of the 5 letters in my name and in that order!), and my daughter would be 4th generation AKA!

You know ever since I can remember I was told AKA, so I never had the desire to do anything else. I will train my daughter the same way, a little brainwashing is good for the youth!

Well, we all know your little legacy will be built from ground up before she was born--like right after you got the ultrasound!!!

And I know some folks let they kids do all the "calls", "chants", only wear the "constitutionally dictated colors", have them sit in chapter meetings--so now they know all the secret stuff--and short of an all out MIP for them, these kids goto school and argue and fight over which group is better and why... Forget the fact that it's about community service.

Then when they get into college, the kids think they know something and they really don't and the parents are wondering why?

If anything, if I had a legacy, ('cuz for me it'd be the same way as your family), as soon as my daughter was a teenager, I would make sure (if willing) one of the undergrad chapter sorors would become her mentor--to like, "school her" on "some things"...

ladygreek · #18 01-12-2006, 08:17 PM

To answer the original question, I didn't do anything.

*Just thought I'd throw a little joke in there*

Obsession8 · #19 01-12-2006, 08:44 PM

Excellent topic!

Well, to reiterate what some sorors have already said, I don't have children, but if I did (namely a daughter), I'd *DEFINITELY* want her to be an AKA (and, if I had a boy, I'd want him to be an Alpha). No matter what, though, I'd want her to do her research, not just AKA overall, but for the local chapter as well. And, I'd want her to do it on her own (*not* pledge legacy) if she did decide on AKA. She'd have to choose what she'd feel would be right for her. But, I'm not gonna lie, though; if she chose to "go another way", I'd be disappointed.

I've actually already had a taste of this with my little sister (she graduates from high school in May). She said a couple of years ago that if she (and her best friend) would be pledging anything, it'd be Delta. Now, that I'm an AKA, maybe I can persuade her otherwise before it's too late.

I also have a teenage cousin who has expressed interest in being a Delta (my aunt enrolled her in a local chapter's "Cinderella" program last year; it seems like a done deal). Our family is an Alpha one (me being the latest addition), so she's gonna be the odd one out, but I'll support her nevertheless.

I also have sorors in my chapter who could've pledged legacy in the other 3 NPHC sororities (including a line sister whose mom is a Delta; she and her sisters are both AKAs; I'm guessing their mom was less than thrilled but supportive). I guess the moral of the story is that people have to decide what's the best fit for them, even if it is the wrong thing (j/k).

Obsession8 · #20 01-12-2006, 08:54 PM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91
Greetings to the beautiful ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. If you don't mind me intruding to gain some knowledge on a subject. My sister is an AKA and has two daughters ages 4 and 6. Last week I had my nieces stay over and I took them out with me and some Greek friends. When they saw two of your sorors they immediately began to skee-wee their hearts out . It happens that my sister taught them that and a cute chant. Your sorors thought it was cute, but my other friends said that it was inappropriate . It's not the first time I've seen this happen, as a matter of fact it's common to see little girls imitating their mothers calls, strolls, etc. Do you think it's wrong to prejudice a child to a particular fraternity/sorority? Or do you believe if you “bring up a child in the right way they will not depart”? I plan to put my sons on line at the age of 3...lol!

Compliments of marquise 1911

This is also something *else* I think about frequently. I think it's cute...to a point (i.e. when the child gets to be a certain age when they should "know better"). I plan to do so if and when I ever have kids, but I'll be sure to let them know when "enough is enough". I don't see this being any different than people who raise their kids to like certain sports teams and/or "encourage" them to play certain sports (to live out their parent's {namely father's} dream of being a superstar athlete). It's like I mentioned in my previous reply: it all eventually boils down to what the individual wants, regardless of *STRONG* parental "pressure". Doesn't mean I won't *try*, though.

Conskeeted7 · #21 01-12-2006, 11:08 PM

I don't have any children, but I won't intentionally influence their choice to pledge a certain organization. I'll let my daughter know my reasons for joining, but leave the decision up to her.

I'm legacy, but still felt like I had a choice. I know that my family would have been supportive if I went another way.

abaici · #22 01-13-2006, 01:31 AM

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Originally posted by WenD08
well..."since my money is green, that's all i'm paying for"-Soror Yvonne, my mom! i'm going to expose her to Spelman (that better be the only blue and white she wears hoping she'll go there or another HBCU. and hopefully she'll see the love i have for AKA will love it the way i did growing up. if my child goes another way, i'll try and suck it up. notice i said try...

I love AKA and Spelman so much. Spelman was an invaluable experience that helped to mold me into the person I am today. Alpha Kappa Alpha has proved to be just an AWESOME experience. I don't have a daughter, but if I did, I would want her to have that.

RedefinedDiva · #23 01-13-2006, 09:43 AM

Are there really other options?

J/K.... or am I?

Really, when/if I am blessed with a daugther, I won't let her in on more than she should know before it's time. Some kids don't know the cutoff point. I doubt that I will have my daughter walking around skee-weeing and whatnot, but an occasional pink and green outfit won't hurt. (I mean, the colors are always in season, right?

) I wouldn't want my daughter to have the "Mona" syndrome and be full of herself. That is NOT a good quality. But I do want to set an example for her so see what a wonderful sorority that I am a part of. That way, her choice would be dayum near solidified by age 5. lol!

I want to build a long-lasting legacy of AKA women, as I am the first in my family. I love this sorority SO dearly that I couldn't imagine my daughter, grand-daughter, etc. choosing anything else. I can be honest and say that I don't know how supportive I would be. I mean, after it's done, there is nothing that can be done. However, it might take me a while to accept it.

AKA2D '91 · #24 01-13-2006, 11:09 AM

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Originally posted by Obsession8
Excellent topic!

Well, to reiterate what some sorors have already said, I don't have children, but if I did (namely a daughter), I'd *DEFINITELY* want her to be an AKA (and, if I had a boy, I'd want him to be an Alpha). No matter what, though, I'd want her to do her research, not just AKA overall, but for the local chapter as well. And, I'd want her to do it on her own (*not* pledge legacy) if she did decide on AKA. She'd have to choose what she'd feel would be right for her. But, I'm not gonna lie, though; if she chose to "go another way", I'd be disappointed.

I've actually already had a taste of this with my little sister (she graduates from high school in May). She said a couple of years ago that if she (and her best friend) would be pledging anything, it'd be Delta. Now, that I'm an AKA, maybe I can persuade her otherwise before it's too late.

I also have a teenage cousin who has expressed interest in being a Delta (my aunt enrolled her in a local chapter's "Cinderella" program last year; it seems like a done deal). Our family is an Alpha one (me being the latest addition), so she's gonna be the odd one out, but I'll support her nevertheless.

I also have sorors in my chapter who could've pledged legacy in the other 3 NPHC sororities (including a line sister whose mom is a Delta; she and her sisters are both AKAs; I'm guessing their mom was less than thrilled but supportive). I guess the moral of the story is that people have to decide what's the best fit for them, even if it is the wrong thing (j/k).

Naaaaaaaaaawwww Soror! If that's what she wants to do...LET HER DO IT!

That's how folks get caught up! We don't need to persuade and justify why she or any female should become a member of ALLLLLLLPHA KAPPA ALLLLLLLLPHA!

Don't do it! Leave her be!

onlyme · #25 01-13-2006, 11:26 AM

Ditto what she said!!

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Originally posted by RedefinedDiva
Are there really other options? J/K.... or am I?

Really, when/if I am blessed with a daugther, I won't let her in on more than she should know before it's time. Some kids don't know the cutoff point. I doubt that I will have my daughter walking around skee-weeing and whatnot, but an occasional pink and green outfit won't hurt. (I mean, the colors are always in season, right? ) I wouldn't want my daughter to have the "Mona" syndrome and be full of herself. That is NOT a good quality. But I do want to set an example for her so see what a wonderful sorority that I am a part of. That way, her choice would be dayum near solidified by age 5. lol!

I want to build a long-lasting legacy of AKA women, as I am the first in my family. I love this sorority SO dearly that I couldn't imagine my daughter, grand-daughter, etc. choosing anything else. I can be honest and say that I don't know how supportive I would be. I mean, after it's done, there is nothing that can be done. However, it might take me a while to accept it.

Steeltrap · #26 01-13-2006, 01:01 PM

At 41, my time's sort of running out. But if I do marry and adopt, I plan to give her positive reinforcement towards AKA. That would also include encouragement to support events, whether on the UG or grad level.

unspokenone25 · #27 01-13-2006, 02:02 PM

Not married and no children. I am THE FIRST Alpha Kappa Alpha woman in my family and I worked really hard to get my letters. It was a personal decision for me and it will be a personal decision for her. I would expose my daughter to the sorority at a young age but let her come to her own conclusion as to what organization she should strive for.

Of course, I would want to keep the "pink and green" legacy alive but all that matters to me is that my daughter is happy. If she chooses to search for the pink and green light, I will support her but she will have to work just as hard as I did to get my letters. Nothing will be handed to her. Legacy or not, she will know the true meaning of sisterhood in her journey to AKAland.

I want my daughter to be proud of Alpha Kappa Alpha and not fight over which sorority is the best. She will know which one is the best by looking at me and my Sorors. She will see what we have endured and overcome in our 100 years of existence. That is all she will need to see to make her decision when she goes to college. She will know that it takes a special type of woman to wear her 20 pearls. She will understand why Mommy gets tears in her eyes everytime she sings the Hymn or hums to trees.
Just my .08 cents.

P.S. Sorry y'all but the neoism is coming out in me and I'm getting amped b/c it will be my first Founders' Day on Sun.!

SKEEphistAKAte · #28 01-13-2006, 07:26 PM

Ummm this little girl right here-------->

...will NOT be pledging any other sorority. And that is the end of that!

Because we are "connected at the hip" she is exposed to our organization alot. And if she did one day happen to lose her mind and join another organization I would look something like this:

. I definitely wouldn't pay for it and I am not going to lie, I would be salty for a LONG time. I would rather her not join a sorority at all than to join one other than AKA. I wouldn't stop talking to her or anything crazy like that, but I would be upset for a minute.

soft&beautiful · #29 01-13-2006, 07:40 PM

Skee, stop!!! and tell me why is she so cute? She is so supercute!! Awwwww.....

Steeltrap · #30 01-14-2006, 12:42 AM

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Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
Ummm this little girl right here-------->...will NOT be pledging any other sorority. And that is the end of that!

Because we are "connected at the hip" she is exposed to our organization alot. And if she did one day happen to lose her mind and join another organization I would look something like this: . I definitely wouldn't pay for it and I am not going to lie, I would be salty for a LONG time. I would rather her not join a sorority at all than to join one other than AKA. I wouldn't stop talking to her or anything crazy like that, but I would be upset for a minute.

Soror, I have to tell you that Babyperson SKEE is beautiful.

And I know you'll do a good job laying the framework for her, and she will carry it from there.