Advisor needs advice

[James]

Are you a sensitive type person? You keep mentioning feelings and etc. I am not sure that how you feel is all that important.

ITs more important what you do. I think Kddani and others are giving you good advice when they say you need to define your role before you go much further.

This is important because you have an operational role with the chapter that transcends how you may feel or not feel about them.

Also take a deep breath. You have only been Greek for three months. You were only greek for one month before being made an advisor.

ITs a little like putting a freshman pledge on the e-board. So just relax, you have years to learn about the chapter, about its members, and about greek life in general.

In the meantime, get the officer manuals from the national . . . they are usually on the web site, maybe in the sisters only section. They are normally downloadable, if not the national can probably email them to you as an attachment.

Get familiar with the officer roles.

Also, in the meantime take a Servant/Leader approach . . you are there just to help. To help them be more efficient. To just be supportive. You are not there to make it any harder for them.

If they haven't been able to make time for you, make time for them. Meet them on their own time and turf. Be pleasant and not demanding. Be charming. Just listen a lot. You won't know enough at first to really want to be critical.

Do you have any leadership experience? Have you been a budget unit manager or something? Captain of a sports team? President of a club with more than 20 members? Student government? Read a half dozen leadership/management books?

Originally posted by ASAlady
Yeah, I am "technically" an advisor. I received my letter of acceptance from HQ and everything. The letter directed me to get the proper paperwork from thte chapter, the stuff that was not available from the website. I am meeting with my alumnae chapter this week and the DF will be there. I have voiced my concern to them but I will be more detailed and clear with what is going on. The main reason I posted was to get another POV since national reps are more business oriented, where honestly I kind of feel slighted from these girls. They are my sisters and I don't want to feel uncomfortable around them.
Thanks for all the advice!