Thats . . . well uhm . . . just wrong on so many different levels Taualumna lol.
Maybe guys are taught to view relationships more in terms feelings(though we don't get credit for it). For men its important to us that we are attracted to her and get along, thats about it.
Maybe women are brought up to be more focused on resumes?
Along the same lines, I have never seen men gush about the new girl they dated having this and that impressive resume feature or material advantage. But I have certainly seen women do it.
I guess its another gender difference? And yet men are considered more shallow . . odd eh?
As far as education being crucial, I think there that may have been more true a long time ago.
At one time if you went to college it meant that you probably came from a certain type of background or had superlative ability (that someone recognized).
Now that we have made higher education into an assembly line for the production of Happy Meal Diplomas, and I apply this to advanced degrees also, education has less to do with your background and more to do with your ability and patience with ticket punching . . . and I am not sure thats an admirable trait.
Maybe not a bad one, but not an admirable one.
The bottom line is whether you can trust yourself (and most people lack the skill) to recognize a quality person with all his/her attributes just by getting to know someone.
Then you wouldn't need to check off boxes on an imaginary dating resume that can net you a guy that looks good on paper but is still dysfunctional as a person.
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Originally posted by Taualumna
I guess it depends on the person. I think sharing similar values is important in a relationship, and usually, that comes with upbringing and education. Usually, someone who has dropped out of college to "do his own thing" won't share the same values as someone who has a degree and is, say, a doctor. Of course, there are exceptions.
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