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Both guys & girls see past any sort of facade to your true intentions pretty quickly (especially if you have a drink in your hand). Don't cloud your desire to be a member of a sorority with a desire to be popular/get dates. (& don't take it as a bad thing, a lot of freshman guys/girls actually misperceive this)
Imagine how you would feel if all your friends were only around because they thought you had good parties & knew the cute guys. Well, if you got those 'friends' of yours into a room with all those cute boys.. why would they want to spend time with you anymore? The girls met the guys and thats all they wanted. See what I mean?
When you use people, once you acheive your purpose/goal, you forget about them. Would it feel good to you if someone forgot about you like that? Just think about your true intentions. If you are using a sorority for social leverage (key word: using) then it's probably a good idea to chill out for a year and really wonder if it is what you want.
A lot of younger girls actually have this problem with perceiving what a sorority actually is. All they know is Pledged with Paris Hilton or rumors that run around high schools/freshman dorms. They look up to the letters and think of sororities/fraternities almost like little nightclubs. Events, theme parties, the boys from next door, drinks here & there.
A sorority is much more about the girls you make relationships with, the girls you live with, cook with, laugh with, go to movies with, plan activities with.. you name it. sororities have weekends where they go on retreats (thats right.. all girls vacation for like 48-72 hours) and so many other things too. meetings to keep up with, dues, etc.
Anyway.. bottom line is.. you don't need a sorority to party. So if you find out that is what makes you happy, then go for it. The guys will Love your enthusiasm. lol. just be careful. theres this little thing called social balance you might want to keep in mind (while having fun of course).
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