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Originally posted by valkyrie


What is really bothering me about this thread are the people who say stuff about how sisterhood is the most important part of sorority membership or I think the orgs. are all awesome or I hung out with other than the top fraternities and it was great or whatever so you should just SUCK IT UP AND DEAL. I mean, I might not understand any individual's reasons for wanting X, Y, or Z out of her sorority membership (and I did mention not understanding the importance placed on mixing with fraternities) because I might have different priorities. However, I don't think it's fair or productive for me to be overly critical of her for it. That would be like me going into someone's wedding thread and saying, "Oh man I would be perfectly happy getting married in jeans with two guests so you should just deal and forget the big wedding of your dreams." We all have different priorities and desires, so why not accept that other people don't necessarily value what you do?

Word. I don't understand this thread at all.

We complain all the time about women who go through rush, who have their heart set on one house, who don't keep an open mind, who will only join the "top houses" et cetera. This girl did NONE of that and everyone is still ripping her a new one even though she did keep an open mind and joined a sorority that was not her top choice. I think she's been very honest/brave/classy throughout this thread and I don't get the animosity at all.

I don't think it's impossible that she feels uncomfortable with her sisters AND disappointed with the social opportunities. Or that she feels uncomfortable with her sisters because they have different priorities regarding the social opportunities. There are a lot of leaps being made here that the OP was dishonest, when I don't think that that was ever the case.