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Originally posted by FSUZeta
i will tell you this: you should make a concerted effort to go over to the house, eat your meals there,be outgoing, meet your pledge sisters and get to know them, as well as the initiated members. turn yourself into the rusher-ask the girls questions, start a conversation with them and really listen. don't just show up, sit in a corner and expect them to run up to you and keep you entertained. if,after all that effort you still do not feel a connection, then have one more talk with the pledge trainer or president, and if things can't be worked out, then depledge.
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EXCELLENT EXCELLENT EXCELLENT advice there!
When I think back to various girls that we had depledge or that were thinking about depledging (now, i'm excluding girls that weren't sure if they could handle the cost)- they were the girls who were never around, who rarely showed up to things, who did NOT put forth any effort. Some of them, after talking to their plege mom or big, started showing up to more things, hanging out when they didn't "have" to, doing stupid things like going to Walmart and watching crappy TV with sisters... those not-so-sure pledges turned into fabulous sisters who love the house! The ones who actually depledged? Yep, they were never there and put in no effort to get to know any of the sisters.
You get out of a sorority what you put into it. The sorority's job isn't to entertain you. It goes both ways.
And if you don't put in any effort to get to know the sisters, why should they go out of their way for you?
Obviously we don't know the situation and exactly what you've done, but I do get this impression.
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