Great Sex Fiasco of 2005

[AKA_Monet]

AlphaGamDiva--

It sounds like your folks lamenting on your choices are about losing their "little girl" and facing the fact that you are all grown up now... Moreover, it sounds like you are acting like a rebellious teenager where your folks can talk you out of doing "dangerous liaisons"...

First off, your mom has come to realize that she is getting old--no longer the "young frisky thang" that she use to be before she got married to your father. How much did she give up to have her family? Did she finish college? Does she have a high falluntin' career? Those kinds of things--fear of the unknown are freaking her out--she has NEVER BEGAN TO THINK OF HER LIFE OUTSIDE OF HER CHILDREN!!! The fabled, "empty nest" syndrome...

Secondly, your dad may not understand all these "female problems" that are going on and believes what his buddy's are telling him at local church men's group, rather than what your big picture really is...

The fact that your grandparents have stepped in to maintain control with $$$ suggests to me that they are all spooked that you will make poor choices--suggesting that you are immature in their eyes. And really, by the tone of your arguments, you are behaving rather juvenile--I wouldn't say immature, but why must you seek approval from your family when you say you are an adult? Adult conversations take on adult privacy...

Now you have to decide if YOU YOURSELF are making the BEST choices for YOU and for your OWN APPROVAL!!! Not God's, not your families but YOURNS!!! Basically, you must bare your own cross now... Suck it up and do it...

Most likely, your family will NEVER cut you off--they are incapable of doing so--they love you too much to do that. You must believe that about them. At the same time, if your mom is nearing 50 something and is perimenopausal, dude, your mom is going through HAYLE right now and no wonder she freaks... But that is not your responsibility to have reins over you... You have to decide how you want to live your life ultimately...

I personally think you outta do the part-time job thing and part-time school thing and get an efficiency and not live so high on the hog for at least 2-3 more years. Read "Young, Fabulous and Broke" by Suze Orman and start to save your money.

See, you are doing things that your family has probably seen very few women EVER accomplish in their lives. It is a matter of 1 more year before they start to marry you off... What do you want out of your life, really?

I think you have some huge dreams that have never been dreampt[sp?] in your family before, i.e. becoming a supreme court justice, etc... And they have NO idea as to how to get you there, so they want you snap back into their reality, which they KNOW is safe and your heart won't get broken into 1000s of pieces and to where they know how to protect you--rather than their fear of losing you to all that "who ha" stuff...

So now your job with your family becomes to show them that you alone can make a difference...

Are you ready for that?