I wonder if I Love My Man is even a college student at all.
Only reason is because I tend to agree with N4L as it pertains to getting involved in her own social/professional life via pursuing membership in organizations.
I think there is an assumption on BGLO members' behalf that she is PROBABLY in college also. However, based on the fact that she doesn't even know BASIC protocol (despite what ALphaChi and gphi2k have said about not knowing, that is BASIC)I would wonder if she were even a college student.
gphi: There is a big difference in saying "My boyfrind is an Alpha" (discretion is not necessary) and "My boyfriend is pledging a frat." (discretion is NECESSARY). As all know, pledging is ILLEGAL. So going further and saying that her man has to wake up in the middle of the night JUST when they are about to get cozy even puts Alphas business out there even more. So her lack of discretion is of importance here and calling her on it is NECESSARY. So as far as BGLO information is concerned, she did tell us about his "life" she basically said that he was pledging.
Further, I think N4L's advice was good advice.
I see everyone telling her, as I am, to hang in there. It won't be easy because she doesn't have a frame of reference from which to draw. He WON"T be able to tell her information about his process and it is natural to want to know, but that is simply something that she cannot know, nor shoud she know. At the same time if not knowing is what will make her bail, then that's her issue. She just couldn't hang. What I mean is that if after he pledges, he changes (which some do) and therefore, the relationship changes, then that's one reason to bail. But if frustration about knowing secrets, etc is what drives her away, then that is something she has to contend with.
I am sorry to say, but after he pledges, his priorities probably will shift a bit. He will be on fire about being in the Frat and most likely will spend a great deal of time tending to frat business. Again, I suggest getting involved in your own personal life. Spend more time with friends and family (sounds like yeah whatever), but I know as women, we tend to put our boyfriends FIRST and foremost and feel shunned when they don't do the same. That's why I say get into yourself more and your other relationships.
Good luck.
[This message has been edited by DELTABRAT (edited February 28, 2001).]
[This message has been edited by DELTABRAT (edited February 28, 2001).]
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