Is He Gay????

[DPhiU]

Ok, ladies, I need your help. First, I realize that this post has nothing to do with fraternity/sorority life, but I'm desperate for some unbiased opinions on this subject. I hope it is not deleted. Anyway, a few months ago, I met this guy at work (let's call him John) and we became friends. We sit together and go to lunch together every day. Now, when I first met him, my gaydar told me he was gay, but after a month or so, he told me he had a girlfriend. He also said that all his life, people, including his father, had thought that he was gay. In fact, even before we met and started hanging out, everyone at work thought he was gay. The only thing in my closet is a fabulous wardrobe. Everyone at work thinks that we are a couple and he does not dispute this to them.

He takes me home every friday nite and stays until 3am, although nothing has happened between us. He has slept over here numerous times, in the spare room. One time he told me that my a*s was flat, and I took his hand and put it on my a*s to prove him wrong. He didn't react negatively.

He broke up with his girlfriend after she demanded that he choose between her and his friendship with me.

His best friend is gay and he says that all his life, he's always had gay friends and they always fall in love with him. By the way, I'm falling in love with him!!! He hurt his shoulder working out and I massaged not only his neck/shoulders, but his whole back, during which he felt my "you know what" against his a*s. (I was sitting on his a*s). His only reaction was to say "I felt something sticking me. You're not getting turned on, are you?"

So, while my gaydar is 100% in tune, I'm beginning to get a little confused. On the phone he kinda treats me like we're at the very least, dating, but in person, acts like we're just friends.

So, to make a long story short (too late), HELP ME ladies. 1) Is he gay? 2) What should I do?. I really have strong feelings for this guy, but I'm not sure if I'm willing to wait for him to "find" himself. I would also appreciate the opinions of the open-minded, heterosexual males out there. Thanks.