Best friend and annoying tag-along chick

[dzrose93]

Hi GC! I have a problem and need some advice. Forgive me in advance for this is going to be a long post.

One of my best friends (a pledge sister) lives close by and we used to hang out quite a bit. Another of her friends from college just moved to the area last month. I used to be friends with this girl also but after several unpleasant incidents, the last on New Year's Eve, I've completely given up trying. She is loud, obnoxious, boy-crazy and socially inept. A couple of examples: Since I have known her she has invited herself to 2 weddings, not because she was friends with the bride, but because she didn't want to be left out of something that I and my other friend were doing. Another example, last summer, this girl angrily dragged me off the dance floor of a local hotspot, literally out of my guy's arms, because there were - and I quote -"no cute guys paying attention" to her! She then made a huge public scene, yelling at me that she had been in the bathroom for 20 minutes by herself because she didn't have anyone to dance with. (I know for a fact that 2 of my guy friends had asked her to dance out of politeness, so she was definitely not being ignored.)This girl is 26 years old and has never EVER had a boyfriend due to the way she acts around men.

My problem is that my best friend and this girl live only a couple of miles from each other. She doesn't know anyone else in the area, so she is constantly over at my friend's house. They have become quite
close since the girl moved up here, and now are practically attached at the hip. Even my friend's husband has mentioned how tired he is of having this girl around all the time.

My friend keeps inviting me over for girls' nights out, but I have no desire to be in the same room with this other girl. I decided to put my feelings aside a few weeks ago and go out with them. The entire
evening, I was ignored while they talked between themselves. I couldn't get a word in edgewise!

Now, my friend keeps e-mailing me, inviting me to do things and making comments about how I never hang out with her anymore. I've
tried to explain the reason, but it only gets her defensive and angry. Now she's saying that I'm ignoring my friends in order to spend all my time with my new boyfriend instead. Completely untrue! I'm still doing all sorts of activities with my other girlfriends.

I want to keep my friendship with my pledge sister, but it's becoming increasingly difficult. Can anyone offer advice? I'm open to any and all suggestions. THANKS! Again, sorry for the long post!