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Originally posted by James:
What KABillyMac said was good, shop around, stop practicing getting married with every relationship, and putting that kind of pressure on every relationship.
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Excellent point, James - it's as simple as this: guys get scared off when the girl is more into them, then they are into the girl. It's one of the worst possible dating scenarios for dudes, b/c there's no good way to handle it. I think a lot of our stated problems here are alleviated when people just chill on relationships, and stop expecting every single person you date to be 'the one.' That's horribly unrealistic, and places so much undue pressure on both people that the relationship fails before it begins.
Play the field, have fun - don't lower your standards, but maybe lower your expectations of finding your spouse at every fraternity party. Be more assertive, and go after guys (instead of expecting the opposite) - then, try to utilize the relationship for fun and mutual fulfillment (on many levels), and never look at it as potentially 'serious' - that is only inviting failure, and it'll eventually happen if meant to be. Never put that kind of pressure on guys - I have enough trouble doing laundry (OK, dragging it to the cleaners), etc; how can I be expected to be the 'man of your dreams' right off the bat as well?
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