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Originally posted by abaici
I had a discussion yesterday with two married co-workers and a single co-worker. One of the married co-worker's stated that we are not married because we are too picky and looking for the perfect man.
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See, barely anyone said that to me when I was single... I guess they saw that when a princess walks though the door, only a prince can handle her... BTW, my husband has yet to pick me up and ride me off into the sunset...
What is wrong with pickiness? I guess the statements were made based on the descriptions you all made on the kind of fellas you would like to encounter... If so, nothing is wrong with having high expectations--but you have to reach them yourself--or exuding them yourself--a living example...
Like I said, a lot of African American men have extremely sensitive egos and like to have them stroked on several different occasions. Some of those men also have extremely low self-esteem in general... And a "powerhouse" sistah, they don't like to deal with because not only does it bruise their egos, it also terrorizes their self-esteem... Most sistas don't know this without having been married or living with brothaman...
At the same time you ain't no psychologist... You dayum sho ain't the boys mama... So you ought not have to deal with self-esteem issues when you've got to be dealing with your own... But, think about it... Most brothas that have barely assimilated into the "mainstream" culture, with all the statistics abound about brothaman, where do you think their psyches have gone??? Really??? So you have to understand that aspect about them and their logic for acting out of turn, sometimes...
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