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Originally posted by AGDee
A strategy I have seen work is this:
Each member/new member is encouraged to meet 2 women who they think would be an asset to the chapter and invite them to COB events. (perhaps this is the same concept as "replacing yourself" twice, but put in a more subtle manner). I think I would have been flattered if a sorority woman had said to me "Since I've met you, I've really thought that you would be a great asset to my sorority and I'd really like you to meet my sisters. Would you come to _____ to meet them and we'll see if my hunch is right?"
Dee
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I think it should be something that comes naturally, not that you set out to do. I mean, I might meet lots of people I like, but that does not necessarily mean my sisters will like them - in some cases I KNOW my sisters won't like them. We had one member who was great but continually invited her friends to open bid parties - and they were WEIRD. (I think she rather liked being queen of the dorks, to paraphrase Sixteen Candles) She knew the rest of the sisters didn't want them to join but kept inviting them to parties anyway. Needless to say the poor girls thought they had a chance to join.
If I invited a woman to an open bid party it was because I thought she was special and my sisters would like her too - and there weren't many that I put my neck on the line and did that for.
The "5 step model of rush" does not take and should not take 5 minutes and I'm afraid it's been marketed to make people think it should. You optimally want to get a friendship to the point where they feel so comfy with you and the bros/sisters that they ask YOU how to join.
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