Everyone around me is getting married!

[AKA_Monet]

I got married when I was 34 years old...

I wanted to get married much younger, but then I weighed my options with who was asking me to marry him... Because I strongly felt I needed to have my own "thang" going--i.e. a higher degree (Ph.D.) with a tight career that I could "write my own ticket", then the man I CHOSE to marry would accept that aspect in my life... My now husband was the ONLY man that I thought and believed that TRULY accepted my life as it stood...

Lemme tell you about having children though... Because I waited to marry the right man, my fertility has dropped and will precipitously drop as I age into my 40's... That is the way the "ball bounces"... So how many of you youngins', under the age of say "35" are want to have children with your husband--meaning you will be married before having children? Then, how many of you want to have "natural genetically related" children without ANY tremendous amount of medical technology?

I say it is a balance between pursuing your life's path versus some level of biology. I also think that anything is possible with the biological aspect. And, I think that if you feel compelled to travel down a life's path "just because"--well, that is what being an adult is about...

Just make sure you do it with your eyes wide open...