Amongst my friends, at least people my age, it's a trend right now, with people getting engaged to college boyfriends and girlfriends and even high school sweethearts. It's all fine and sweet, but I think some of them feel like engagement and the wedding are the next steps they're supposed to take. Like oh we're so in love - we've met, flirted, dated, dated seriously, maybe even lived together. Why not? Now the next stage on this relationship checklist is engagement, then marriage. This is all fine and good (and logical) but in a cold (logical) sort of way. I'm fine as I hear about another person younger than me getting engaged b/c I think sometimes people loose sight of the fact that they're creating a family, whether they want kids or a dog, a house or a Volvo or a massively huge wedding. Getting married is a very adult thing to do - it's like getting a promotion or buying a house. There's a great deal of choice, compromise, and effort involved in these adult questions and events. If people aren't reassured about their 'standing' as an adult, they might try to take on these adult decisions - and some people make really good choices. And sometimes they don't.
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It's sort of a competition now, and I don't think I'm going to do very well.
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Please don't feel this way! Yeah singledom! Do well at getting a promotion! You'll feel very adult, competitive and rich!
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