"He's Just Not That Into You"...

[sigmagrrl]

Something about this book really annoys me. It's a bit insulting and has a message that every interaction we have with a man comes with a tinge of desperation attached.

It's not men's "fault" or women's "fault" that there is a gap in communication between the sexes, but to say that we are always thinking that "It's not me, it's him." if he doesn't call makes me mad.

Also, it sort of lets men off of the hook. I am a bit tired of the claim that men "just don't communicate like women". Um, ok, so if they know that, then why aren't there more books and shows telling MEN how to change their methods of communication, both verbal and non-verbal.

Why are women made out to be the seeker and destroyer of all relationships and men made out to be these mindless penises looking to get laid or escape capture?

I'm exhausted. It seems as if we would all be much better off if we just spoke our minds and stopped trying to analyze what was said, how to say it, anticipating the response, anticipating how to react to said response, acting aloof, acting interested, playing it cool, not calling within 2 days, pretending to not be home when someone calls, screening calls, getting someone to call you when you are on a boring date to get out of said date, treating dating like some sort of power play, treating each other as walking genitalia, looking at the shape of her thighs/size of his wallet instead of taking the time to find out the size and shape of someone's heart and soul.................. LORD!!

Was that an exhausting sentence? Yes, because that's how exhausting this cat and mouse game between genders feels!

One more thing: I know that there is something enticing and exciting about the "thrill of the chase", but how much isht would we cut through if we stopped playing it cool all the time and just tell someone we dig them? If they don't reciprocate, then fine, but at least you risked and that's the reward in and of itself!