I just found out that my grandpa passed away. I can't stop crying...and I just feel so sad... he suffered a great deal this past year (hooked up to machines, bed-ridden, not able to eat, not able to talk, etc.), so in a way, I am happy that he is now pain-free in heaven. But I just cannot take it...I keep on asking myself "Why did God let him die?" I was about to go to visit him too in July.
Even worse is that he and my mom's side of the family lives on an entirely different side of the world--in Asia. I've only seen him about 5 times in my lifetime--most recently about 3 years ago
. I just feel so "cheated" that I didn't get to know him more, or spend more time with him.
I don't know how to cope with this--I have finals upcoming and all these papers due--but I am in no mood to study right now. I just don't know what to do--my mother was JUST flying to see him (just yesterday) and right now she is STILL on the plane and does not know of his passing. I just feel so sad for her...she could not see him once more. How do I help her cope, too? She was very close to her father...and I think this is going to be VERY hard on her...
Recently my grandma passed on, too...and my mother was on a plane waiting to go see her. Then my grandma passed on a few hours before my mother got to see her. Ironic, isn't?
I love my mother so much--and I know that in a few hours she's gonna feel like the world has ended or something.
Any advice please. I just feel overwhelmed right now with everything. Is there a way to get through this, and to help my mother get through this...
[This message has been edited by newbie (edited May 26, 2001).]
Need tips to cope with family death...
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