Well, I can think of a few things, now, that my ex did for me. I think that the nicest thing was that he got my car for me. That was 3 years ago. I totalled it a year later, and he got me another one. I have to appreciate that!
Now, just recently, I was telling him about how I was searching for the Beastie Boys CD "Licensed to Ill" and I couldn't find it, because I wasn't paying full price for a CD that old. Well, while I was in Cleveland this past weekend, he got it for me, and had it waiting when I got back. I liked that, because it shows that he listens. I'm now trying to focus on the good that he does, which clearly outweighs the bad he has DONE. But, like you said, it's hard when you really think about it. I feel you!