Need Help!!: Nightmare Monster(Baby)-Sitting

[AlphaFrog]

Warning, this is going to be LONG!

Ok, I'm 21 years old but I haven't really done that much babysitting in my life. Recently I've been babysitting for my boyfriend's sister-in-law....she has 4 kids (by 3 different fathers, none of them her current husband, my boyfriend's step-brother). They are ages 9, 7, 4, 3.

The 9 yo, the only girl, I generally have no problems with, mostly beacuse she knows that her mother puts up with no isht from her and will beat her if she's out of line.

The 7 year old has anger problems and cries hysterically when he doesn't get his way...usually because he's been playing his videogame for hours on end and other kids want to watch TV so I take the power cord away from him.

The 4 year old (almost 5, will be going to kindergarten next fall) cries hysterically anytime, for any reason, and even to the point where he'll stop breathing. He also cannot wipe his own butt after using the restroom.

The 3 year old fell and cracked his front tooth months ago (I was not yet babysitting for them yet) and the mom claims she doesn't have the money to take him to the dentist to get it pulled (even though since then she's bought a new van, new TV, satalite TV, etc) and it is now rotting away and causing his other front tooth to rot away...probably because the kids drink nothing but soda the whole day starting from when they get up at 8 to when they go to bed at 7 or 8...they have gone through a 12-pack between the 4 of them in 3 hours before.

The 3 & 4 year old do not go to preschool right now...they sit home all day and drink soda, eat ramen noodles and watch TV ALL DAY.

The only form of punishment these kids respond to is spanking, but obviously I'm not going to spank someone else's kids, and the mother would have a isht fit if anyone hurt her precious babies. They have no manners whatsoever. The 3 & 4 year old don't even have the discipline to stay off the dinner table or the TV. When I bring them to my house they are slightly better behaved, but I might as well be watching them for free as they won't stay out of my fridge and will take whatever they can get their hands on. They constantly beat on eachother and the only way to get them to stop is by phisically restraining them, but I can't be doing that because I'm pregnant and very afraid that they will hit me while I'm trying to restrain them.

They tell me that I'm mean and that they hate me and then 5 minutes later they fight about who gets to sit in my lap. They tell me that they don't have to listen to me and when I tell them no they say that they're going to ttell their mommy when she gets home (not that she cares anyway)

I've talked to the mother about their bad behavior and told her that I have no idea what to do because they don't listen and she told me that I stress too much and if they're doing something and it's not going to kill them, just let them do it. She says that she wants them to have a chance to "just be kids".

On top of this I'm lucky if she pays me $3 an hour. I've talked to people about this and they say "So just don't babysit" but it's just not that easy because if I stopped babysitting for her she'd be pissed at me and she would inisit her husband is pissed at me too which then causes problems between him and his brother and my boyfriend and me. My boyfriend and I already have enough problems to work through (not that we have a bad relationship, is just that we don't need MORE stuff on top of the few conflicts we need to resolve) and a baby on the way. Plus she's accused me of bringing probelms between her and her husband...because "they have a perfect relationship and just because my boyfriend and I don't doesn't mean that I need to give them problems"...the funny part is her relationship is far from
perfect and she doesn't even know it. Her husband is Mexican and barely speaks English, my boyfriend tells me (I speak Spanish, we don't have many problems with language) that his brother doesn't even understand his wife and most of the time he has no idea what's going on...I'd say that was a HUGE problem, but she has no clue that he doesn't understand (both brothers are very good at smile & nodding). Plus she wants him to adopt her kids and he's like "no freaking way", but he won't tell her that.

Ok, I really need to stop now or I'm going to get myself upset and I really don't need that right now...anyway...does anyone have any suggestions on how to handle the situation/kids/her/etc...??????