Men and Women - Inherently Dysfunctional?

[James]

Well . . the problem is that we don't look at things in context.

Women are probably 6-10 years ahead of men when it comes to relationship ability.

If you look at the way boys and girls develop socially there are major differences.

In elementary school girls are already practicing getting along with each other. They do more group activities and tend to be less competitive with each other for control, at least within their social units.

Girls also play more cooperation oriented games and more games that seem domstic in nature. Such as playing house etc.

Boys really don't do stuff like that much.

I think what happens is that when girls start dating at 15-17 you start dating guys your own age that are years behind you in maturity. And we burn you . . . a lot.

When guys finally start catching up, probably late 20's early 30's you have been burned so many times you are gun shy.

Plus, until you hit your 30's or 40's you are probably still ahead of the guy emotionally, he is still learning about where you have already been. Must be frustrating.

A lot of relationships i see where the girl and the guy are about the same age usually has the girl in emotional control . . . and not always happy about it. A bit like parenting.