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Like everything else in life I'd say "it depends". It depends on the house, the lady, the circumstances and the chapter. What there definitely needs to be is honest open communication. If there is a requirement for new members to live in the house-bring that up. Say, we really like you but we can't have kids here and that's one of our rules. If you have a prblem keeping girls in the house, then maybe it is not a good time for her. Maybe she could COB later or something.
If there is not a house to worry about then there are different circumstances. Does she live close by or is she commuting an hour one way to school? Does she understand the meetinf schedules and fine schedule up front. I know we hate to divulge all our "dirty" rules like fines to a PNM, but here, once again, if you really really like her, maybe you could talk to her. Once she realizes what a huge committment financially etc it is she may whithdraw herself.
Now, if you have a smallish chapter, with no house and rush isn't super competitive and a little more laid back, she has a nice support system at home, you like her/she likes you-she might work out just fine.
Basically though, don't totally dissmiss her. People join Junior League, PEO and are super involved in other demanding things in life and they have kids and it works out totally fine. Why a sorority should be any different is unclear to me. I mean most of your alumnae and super duper committed national officers aren't that old and they have kids.
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