Am I being too Irrational???

[DG515]

Ok, here's the LOOOONG story short...

1)Girl (that's me) meets guy (let's call him tim) last spring...click instantly, like GREAT friends.

2)Girl and Guy are JUST FRIENDS up unti past Nov and start a casual dating/ "together" relationship (not quite FWB, because we were actually dating, but not exclusively)

3)Girl and guy end relationship and stay good friends

4)Guy has fraternity formal, and from the BEGINNING (even before guy and girl were together) has said he's going alone (Tickets are $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ (for dates) and he said he wanted to drink and be with brothers) Girl a little miffed, but understands the $$$$ and the wanting to be with brothers

5)Girl has sorority formal and after long thinking, asks guy to be her date: she knows she'll be comfortable around him and he'll have some brothers there to hang out with when it's girl-time *pictures/bathroom breaks* (ya'll understand :-P) Guy accepts and seems excited.

6)Girl was going to pay for date's ticket (being as SHE asked HIM) and they were going to do a really casual dinner *LOL--Wendy's* (neither have piles of cash sitting around)
~*~Then Tonight~*~
7)Girl gets ride for date and herself so that she can pregame a tad with him and not have to worry about either person driving (date lives on-campus/no car) and tells guy about "Exciting news"

THIS IS THE CONVERSATION THAT TRANSPIRED M=me, H=him

M: So I got us a ride for formal so I can pregame it with you
H: We're going to formal?
M: We WERE going.......I asked you like a month ago and you said you wanted to go?
H:Yeah, that's cool...may 8th?
M:Yup, indeed
H:Yeah, I'd love to go :ause:: I mean, I'm gonna be tanked, so it'll be fun

Point A)Can he only go if he's tanked??
B)Does he only want to go to get tanked?
~*~Yes, I could be reading into the above two, the rest are very good points~*~
C)I don't mind that I'm paying for the tickets (i asked him), I don't mind that I was going to have to drive (he doesn't have a car on campus, I go to a commuter school), I don't mind that we were probably gonna split dinner (like I said, we don't have tons of money laying around, nor time to go to a fancy sit-down restraunt) and I was ok with the fact that I wasn't probably gonna get flowers or anything ($$$ and the fact that he doesn't always think about stuff like that) but......BUT........he's gonna spend the cash at a CASH BAR at MY FORMAL to get TANKED?!?!?

Dude, at the least, $.99 for a carnation (or maybe :gasp: $2.00 for a rose) and like $3 or $4 for dinner at Wendy's........i don't ask for much (lol) I'm very easy to please.....and it's the thought that counts anyways....but there'll be NO flower, and I'm gonna pay for the TICKETS and he's gonna go buy booze?? watered-down, EXPENSIVE AS HELL BOOZE?!?!?!?

I'm to the point now where the whole IDEA of formal is just kind of a turn-off for me.....like i don't even want to really go anymore because if i go by myself or with my sisters or with someone else, i'm gonna think about the whole deal.....if i go with him, I'm gonna be babysitting him all night.....

Or do I even have a right to be upset?? I think it's kind of rude....but maybe it's just me??

Thanks for reading all the way through this!
.:Mandie:.