Lesbian Couple Married in San Francisco

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Originally posted by Rudey
You don't understand. Some of us do.

I am not scared of homosexuals to be honest with you. I feel as if anyone who attacks them verbally or physically is committing a crime. I don't think it is learned but something you are born with.

But the institution of marriage is not about benefits and privileges. People don't say hey let's get hitched so you can visit me when i'm sick, inherit my money, and get a tax break. In Europe they have certain civil unions even for straight couples that provide these benefits without marriage. I don't believe in that. Coincidentally they're not marriage, but civil unions.

-Rudey

I dont know. Maybe I don't get it. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I too believe the institution is about more than benefits and privileges. What I was trying to say is that the institution of marriage, at least I thought, was about loving your life partner, and committing yourselves to each other. Forever.

And I guess that's why I don't understand why so many people oppose this. It's just two people, in love. Lesbians are still women, and I'm sure they, like many, many women in this country and world, grew up thinking about getting married someday, having a wedding, spending your life with the person you love. I personally am looking forward to someday planning my own wedding, having my own celebration of my love for one person, for the rest of my life. And its for that same reason that I don't think I'd be comfortable just having a "civil union" with someone, giving him the legal priviledges in the event that he should need them. I want both. Legal and spiritual. Luckily for me, that person is a male. So I've got the green light on the wedding deal.

Rudey, I agree with you - I think people are born with it. So why should we punish them?? Why can't they share in the joys of being married?

I guess what I'm asking is, if it's not about the benefits of a civil union, or the love for each other, then what is it about? Why are so many homosexual couples rallying around this issue?