Ladies, beware your perfect nice guy

[James]

Ok ok ok.

I have been totally dismayed by the way a lot of girls on here say that they are treated by boys.

And it makes me fearful for you.

Here is why.

Boys are supposed to open doors for you. Pick you up. Say nice things. Call you. Send you flowers and buy you gifts. This is the "Role". A traditional approach.

And depending on their background they may seem more or less chivalrous and mannered.

This has to do with the way they were raised or their early influences.

The crowd that I grew up with did all these things. We weren't necessarily nice. We were just raised that way. Some of us were asses.

But we opened doors, picked you up, said nice things, bought you flowers and acted more or less chivalrously.

That is the Basic Male Unit that you have the right to expect. Someone that has been well socialized enough, or at least watched enough Cary Grant . . . to Open Doors, pick you up, say nice things . . . and give you our jacket when you are chilly.

Thats not even an "upgraded male unit", thats the floor model. The upgraded male units are verbally expressive, caring, romantic, emotionally available, and have other skills and facets that make them intrigueing partners.

Think of them as options.

What I see is girls that are getting subnormal models, perhaps they are broken, or had too many defects to begin with. And then when finally you find a basic male unit you are so estatic you rave about it.

Kind of like going from a broken down Pinto to semi new import.

The worst thing is that you can be pathetically greatful for it. Like being given a drink of tepid water after being emotionally parched.

So honestly. When you are test driving your new men and they don't function as well as even a basic male unit . . keep shopping. Because being a nice guy has little to do with opening doors, picking you up, and saying nice things, those are supposed to be "by the ways". Standard factory package.

So if they don't even have the basics down: Move on.

Edited for sense. Thanks Billy.