Hey, ladies! I know this thread may be coming just a little late, since most schools' formal recruitment is already over, but I just wanted to say something to all the PNMs out there. If you are cut from rush, please, please, please, PLEASE do not give up altogether. I was dropped from rush during the first round of invitationals, and believe me, I was devastated. My Rho Chi suggested COB to me when she called to tell me that I had no invitations, and I just said, "Ok, sure," to get her to hang up so I could go be alone and cry. After that initial disappointment wore off, I was pretty angry. Out of the five chapters on my campus, I was in love with two of them, and I totally had my heart set on one of the two. My thinking was basically, "Well, if they didn't want me during rush, then I don't want them any other time." Besides, going back after I'd already been cut seemed a little desperate to me, so I just said, "Forget it." The day after rush, I received an email from the Vice President of the chapter whom I adored the most, inviting me to COB. At first, I dismissed the idea, but then I got to thinking about it. If they had gone to the trouble to contact me, then they must want me, right? So I called her and talked to her. She told me that for some reason or another, many PNMs were not placed during rush, although there were only about 70-80 PNMs and five sororities to choose from. So I decided that maybe it wasn't really anything against me, and I told her that I would be at their COB event. To make a long story short, I fell even more in love with this chapter, and I was invited to pledge two days later. (If anyone wants to read the whole long story, the link is
http://forums.greekchat.com/gcforums...threadid=38364 )
Anyway, the point I'm trying to make here is not to limit your options. For one thing, COB is much more laid back, and it's easier by far to get to know the sisters. I was lucky that the chapter I loved so much was the smallest on campus, and these women frequently hold COB events. I know this is reiterating what a lot of people have already said, but I wanted to say it, anyway. When I realize that my stubborn pride could have kept me from joining my beautiful DZ sisters, I want to cry. So, anyway, ladies, please look into COB. The sisters are not completely in control of who they can and cannot give invitations to during recruitment. They vote on PNMs, of course, but once the papers (or whatever) leave their hands, it is out of their control. Whether the reason is an error on the part of Panhellenic or the individual chapters (they're only human, after all!), or just the fact that quota happens to be low the particular year that you are rushing, they may be just as heartbroken about doing the cutting as you are about being cut.
Anyway, sorry about the length of this message, and now back to our regular programming!
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