Pursuing PNMs in rush

[carnation]

Okay y'all...some people are taking the pursuit of PNMs' stories a little too far. When BlazerCheer rushed, I was flooded by pms from people I didn't even know asking for details of her recruitment story. Sometimes PNMs don't want to post details--for instance BC was afraid that her opinions would get read by someone at her school and used against her...she was probably the only Asian rushee and it would've been obvious who she was. Others have had awful rushes and don't care for the world to know about it.

Now a few other PNMs have been pursued when they only wanted to drop off the face of the earth. Please don't do "research" into a PNM's rush if she doesn't post and then publish what you learned! If a woman suddenly doesn't post on her recruitment, there's a reason--be it a screwed-up computer or embarrassment. let it die. Please!