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I've thought about this post for a while. I just graduated from college, so my experience in your daughter's position is four years old. Also, I went to a relatively small (5000 undergrad) private school. So, maybe my experience is irrelevant to the question at hand, but here's another perspective.
I did not do a single activity I had done in high school in college. I was going 1500 miles away, and I wanted to try completely new things. In fact, other than being a coxswain for my first semester, I was not in any co-curricular activities. I focused on making and retaining friends from my hallway and special orientation (among my best friends at college) first semester, along with the all-important academics. I had such a broad spectrum of friends that there was always something going on and I was never alone. Keep in mind, I'm not the most outgoing person.
Second semester, when I was comfortable with the new friends I made and with the path I was taking, I delved into more activities--namely my sorority (hooray for deferred rush!), other women's issues, and environmental organizations. The people I knew who did the things for which they were stars in high school--cheerleading, debate, etc, have had basically the same types of friends and experiences that they did as a 17 year old.
Please feel free if you want to ask me any questions! My undergrad experience may be over (hooray for grad school!) but it is very near and dear to my heart.
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