Constructive Criticism & Advice vs. Being Rude
much respect...
as i read the thread "Do Sisterfriends really want help...." (paraphrased) i smiled to myself. While i consider myself a sisterfriend due to the fact that i have friends and relatives who are members of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. i am not interested in becoming a member myself...so i have no vested interest in my posts.
the question was posed to those interested in Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. but i would like to ask a couple of questions about the issue...and so being respectful of the moderators request i felt compelled to start a new thread.
while there are plenty of interests both on the net and off who are rude, because with MIP they know they can get away with it. and for members there is a sense of one not being able to "win for losing".
but there is a difference between giving an interest constructive criticism and being out and out rude. i have seen both of these things on this message board and in "real life". there are several members of this esteemed organization such as Discogoddess who whenever i read her posts i applaude and pass her words onto my friends and relatives who are members because she is concise but always respectful and polite. and on the other hand there are quite a number of members who are just out and out rude.
considering the fact that we are all adults and no one has any children who post to this board why is it that some get away with being rude and when an interest or someone who isn't an interest posts what is in her mind she is immediately blasted.
it is true that there must be some humility when one is inquiring into the ins and outs of any organization...in particular a private organization and/or secret society.
my friends and relatives would say consistently that Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. wants women who are individuals and not cookie cutters and yet...some of the young women who post and are interested are shunned for being just that. while the others who give answers that quite frankly is no where near being humble but humiliating...they are praised and given respect.
so what is the difference between giving constructive criticism and being out and out rude?
there is another part to this...we are on a computer...and we really cannot "hear" inflection in individuals voices...so what might be perceived as rude either way...may not be. but we do have these "smilies" that mean something. and there is enough history of those who have been rude with their words to understand where they are coming from.
i anticipate either this thread will be deleted or locked or i will receive rude replies and some constructive replies. but i caution you...this is not meant to disrespect anyone...but to spark conversation.
as for the women of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. i have great respect for most of you. having grown up around the company of women who are members of your organization and have witnessed them through what they learned ,both pre & post intake, from your organization that they are achieving a greater goal unified through sisterhood than they could have ever done alone. but there is one thing that they have taught me and that is to stand up for what i believe in...something they enhanced while members but what they lived before they were.
peace
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