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Originally posted by absolutuscchick
I think that the fact that a girl would do this is sad, but I think its even more sad that someone who joined a chapter at one school would not be accepted at another. If that were to happen to any girl, I can only imagine what a negative reflectionof the greek community it would be! I believe that ABC ought to be well-organized enough so that if any chapter chooses a girl, then that girl should be a girl of quality who reflects ABC, and who will be a member of ABC for LIFE, not just while she is at one particular school. I understand that girls obviously DO abuse this, but it is not at all fair to take a girl in and then practically throw her out.
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Chapters at school vary from place to place. Some are weaker at other schools and so that chapter will take any girl they can get for numbers. It wouldn't be fair to force the same organization at another school to take this girl if she didn't fit in with the rest of them - and if the girl honestly was in it for the sisterhood and not the letters, she wouldn't want to be in a chapter where her and everyone else didn't get along anyway.
I think this could go along with my legacy thread. Kind of like should you take a legacy just because her mother was an ABC - as opposed to should you let a girl affiliate just because she was an ABC at another school?
It would be wonderful if every chapter of an organization all had the same personalities, but unfortunatly, just like accents in voices differ from place to place, so do chapters (and it may make you stick out like a soar thumb if you don't fit in).
I know people who are the opposite way around. They join a strong chapter of their organization somewhere, but when they transfer schools and find out the chapter there stinks, they drop out. Is it sad for them to do that? Maybe - but I don't think so. If you don't fit in with people you just don't fit in. You can't really force it because it will usually make matters worse.
Also, I can give you another example - you might hate BBB at your school and be so glad you didn't join that sorority, but if you are a ABC and want to affiliate with another ABC chapter - their chapter personality could be just like BBB at your old school. You wouldn't want to join that - so like them shouldn't the chapter have a say so in who they want to affiliate?
Yes, I have no life. I post too much. I am too opinionated. Sorry.
Edit: I also forgot to mention we just had a wonderful girl from the DG chapter at MSU affiliate with us in the Spring. She is a great girl and everything (affiliation wise) went very smoothly for her. She just clicked so well with all of us and now we just don't know how we lived without her!! What makes it even better is she is so happy with all of us too. Just thought I'd add a little positive note that not all affiliation proposals go bad.
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