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Should you always take a legacy?
I don't want to start a battle or anything here, but I am just curious. I can see both sides of the spectrum. I won't specifically say it happened in my plegde class - but I will say I am familier with both these situations.
A.) We had an in house legacy go through recruitment at the same time I did. DG is very pushy towards giving legacies a bid, so even though the majority of girls didn't like this one in particular - they extended her a bid. She got cut from the majority of sororities during recruitment, which scared some other people from keeping DG on their list (I know this for a fact). She complained the whole week about not wanting to be a DG until everyone else had cut her. Then she suddenly was excited about being a DG. Now she only has like 2 or 3 people out of the entire sorority who likes her.
B.) During recruitment, a legacy came through and cut DG. She prefed two other GREAT sororities at my school, but when she didn't get a bid from either of them, she told her mom that she just thought the girls at DG didn't like her - so she cut us. Her mom (of coarse being an alumna gave her a HUGE voice), talked to our head advisor and president and became our only extra girl after recruitment to be picked up. Everyone welcomed her with open arms, but she never does anything with us. She only wears the letters. She doesn't go to any philanthropy events, sisterhood events, or parties. She gets her mom to call in and give us excuses about her being sick or what not.
I know legacies are important, and I hope my daughter will like DG also - but I also understand that personalities of chapters can change a lot in 25-30 years, and just becuase I was good for my chapter at the time doesn't mean my daughter is good for it.
I don't know - maybe I am not making any sense, and I am definitly not saying forget about giving special priority to legacies. They should definitly be given some care and effort during recruitment, but should you *have* to take them if you don't really fit with them just to please their mothers? I know you really don't have to, but some chapters feel obligated to take legacies (not to mention scared of the girl's mother if they cut her).
Sticky situation, but I would like some of your opinions. I just offered two examples that I know of above as reasons why I ask this.
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